Hi mArmstrong77,

Finding out the name is a big deal. It's like in some limited way, you now have power over it. It was a head rush for me. I found it by accident on the net and the health wiki reached out to me and said "There you are". It all came together.

I've lived with this for half a century and of course I don't know your situation, but some things are probably pretty constant and true for all of us in this tidy bowl man boat.

The best help I can think of is this: Beware the downward spiral. What's that? Example you say? Here's one. Being so embarrassed your mind freezes up so that you can't ever apologize at that critical moment. A downward spiral. So a relationship doesn't get properly repaired which in turn creates another trip round and down, round and down, until finally there is no relationship at all left. Big downward spirals like that create other ones by the dozen, like eddies in a pool. Trouble. All together they are completely overwhelming and as human beings were not made to deal with all of them at once. Despair ensues. Don't do that. Pick one spiral you think you can break and crush it without remorse. Do that and you have gain some measure of control.