I know ur pain except mine is a lil different only because my pain was created by me. Yours wasn’t. But still. I’m still a mother and her anti social father only made my pain worse. How old is ur daughter? And what state do u live in? You should go on ur stated Supreme Court website and read up on everything regarding ur situation. Also , if u have any questions try the website called AVVO. Com because there they have lawyers for every kind. Real estate , family law, criminal, immigration. And you get it.! But only the lawyers and attorneys there can answer questions that regular people like you and me would have. One time I was being harrassed by another lawyer and I got on that website and listen to what other lawyers told me to do. And that other lawyer who was harassing me never harrassed me again.! So it’s all free to ask questions. The only time they would charge is when u want to speak to a specific lawyer but I bet there are ways to go around it and get in contact without having to pay.! So I’m sorry for ur pain. And sorry I was no real help. But if u ever need to talk I’ll always be here for you. Sending a virtual hug your way. Good luck. Bye.!

Thank you so much for taking the time to respond. I appreciate your words and advice. My daughter is 9 and we live in Louisiana. I will be checking the websites you suggested.

Heartbroken81,

My heart goes out to you and your daughter! The title of your post caught my attention because I have been through the battle of my life as well, 2x times with my children's father. The first time was when I first left him, my children were infants. Second time, he won and ,my children were 10 and 12 yrs old.

It will be 4 yrs this November since we were separated and I have seen them. I am dealing with parental alienation.

I wish there was some magic word I could offer you to make it all go away. I know the pain, the agony and the fear that goes through your mind every second and moment that your daughter is away from you.

For the other parent, its mostly about power, control and causing you harm - robbing you of your joy through your child.

You can and will get through this. A priest once told me to do everything I could to keep my family together! I did and in the end, when I was tired and could do no more and could no longer stand to see my children dragged through another legal ordeal, I surrendered.

It's a journey that is personal and uniquely suited to you and how you choose to traverse it. Just know that you have the strength, wisdom and power within you to win and overcome, in your own way.


Take it one day and one moment at a time. Surround yourself with a ton of support and Rest when your body feels run down.
I wish you and your daughter victory!

Thank you so much for taking the time to respond. This has been such a painful ordeal for me and my family.

Zenith that’s good advice. So how are u now Heartbroken? Did you check up on those websites that I told you about? Let me know how your doing.! Bye!

Hello! I looked at the websites, thanks again! I still have not been able to see her or speak to her. My attorney called a few weeks ago and said he was not going to work with us any longer all because my ex and his lawyer are coming up with more and more BS as the time passes. Now we have had to retain a new attorney and I am confident that he will fight for us to get her back.

How are you doing?

Oh, I've been there! My main advice is despite the anguish KEEP YOUR COOL in front of magistrates, lawyers, welfare, and anyone connected with your case.! And don't tolerate a shoddy lawyer if you feel you could put the case better, either. Self-representation got things moving much faster for me once I had the guts to try it - which unfortunately took a while.
But above all - KEEP YOUR COOL! How you present in court is so very important.

This exact thing happened to me over 2 years ago immediately after my ex had his child support raised. Prior to that, he had zero contact for 8 years and paid the bare minimum of child support. He made me pay child support to him for a year even though I was a stay at home mom of 3 young children. Oh, and then when I went to court to try to get visitation he had laid the ground work so that I would have to have supervised visits 4 hours away at the psych office of one of his buddies at my expense of $200 an hour. I declined. I haven't seen or spoken to my first born since 2016. He started high school this year. I still cry every day. My other kids are 2, 4, and 7. The youngest doesn't even remember him. The other two miss him so much and don't understand why he can't come home. I just hope that as an adult, he will realize that he was loved by us and that giving up the fight is always going to be the biggest regret of my life.