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I overthink wayy to much and I'm just so confused and don't know what to do or think.
(By the way, if you don't read all of this that's fine, but even reading just a paragraph would mean the world to me)
Let me explain.... There's this family I've known them all my life. Well, I haven't seen them in a long time and now that I'm on spring break I want to spend time with them but they haven't said anything. Not to mention, their son I dated, and things were really cool. Him and I were best friends and ever since the break up I never thought things would have been the way they are. But it's too late to change it now. I've been overthinking and really anxious over two things... well maybe three... Ugh...
1) So I'm really stuck and want to cry because I feel like they aren't getting a hold of me because their son is doesn't want to see me. Like, he just doesn't want to be in contact with me anymore and that something is going on in their household that I don't know about. Going to their house is like my therapy session and it's great, the mother is a counselor so it's really nice talking to her and she knows how to guide me to help me deal with my anxiety. Not seeing them, well I miss them and I can handle not seeing them, but I can't stop thinking irrationally and it's taking over. The reason that I would want to cry over their son not wanting to see me is that I feel betrayed, and he's a true best friend, like a brother. Yes, I still do like him but I don't want to act on it, not interested anymore.
2) I'm starting to get really anxious because I looked at my best friend's facebook and there was this girl answering questions on a post that tagged him. Well one of them said, would you kiss? She said, 'Nah lol,' then the next question was, 'would you date?' She said, ' No ;)' and reading that I pretty much got really anxious. I don't know if she's joking, jokingly being flirtatious, trying to hide that she really likes him, being honest and goofing around, or truly trying to get him. I just.. I don't know why but I can't deal with the fact that he has a lot of other girls that love him that he could date or be married to (or maybe that's just me overthinking) while I'm stranded here, sinking, about to drowned and it doesn't matter... but I don't know if that's the case, and this shouldn't even bother me! Like we aren't dating and I wouldn't want to date him. I just want to be close friends again and I know we're capable of it because we've done it after the break up but my anxiety and his keeps getting in the freaking way!! But then... my mom told me that his parents communicated that their son/my best friend isn't even looking at girls anymore and has taken the break up harshly. I'm just so confused...
Lastly 3) I've realized that I don't trust people.... and it's really hard... The past three days I've been dealing with this and it's becoming really hard. I've wanted to hang out with the same counselor mother I've been talking about to tell her I feel disconnected and closed up.
I don't really know how to explain my situation, exactly. I've been through a lot, lets say, I did things I regret, and it's lost my trust with people. Like i'm closed up to myself and I didn't even realize it until now. This has been a problem for a couple years and that may be why I NEVER talk to guys, like I don't trust them at all. I'm also very selective on my friends and only talk to people if I'm comfortable(which goes along with anxiety). It's not something that's witnessed but felt. Now I trust all of you because I know you're dealing with anxiety just like me, that you'll understand and not judge and look at me like i'm crazy.
I feel like this explains a lot of my relationships and communication, but I don't really know how to explain it either.
So... I've been dealing with this and I really need help. I don't know what to do. I was diagnosed with anxiety last December so it's still really new and I don't quite know how to deal with it yet. Any advice? Or even saying that you know how I feel means the world!
(By the way, if you don't read all of this that's fine, but even reading just a paragraph would mean the world to me)
Let me explain.... There's this family I've known them all my life. Well, I haven't seen them in a long time and now that I'm on spring break I want to spend time with them but they haven't said anything. Not to mention, their son I dated, and things were really cool. Him and I were best friends and ever since the break up I never thought things would have been the way they are. But it's too late to change it now. I've been overthinking and really anxious over two things... well maybe three... Ugh...
1) So I'm really stuck and want to cry because I feel like they aren't getting a hold of me because their son is doesn't want to see me. Like, he just doesn't want to be in contact with me anymore and that something is going on in their household that I don't know about. Going to their house is like my therapy session and it's great, the mother is a counselor so it's really nice talking to her and she knows how to guide me to help me deal with my anxiety. Not seeing them, well I miss them and I can handle not seeing them, but I can't stop thinking irrationally and it's taking over. The reason that I would want to cry over their son not wanting to see me is that I feel betrayed, and he's a true best friend, like a brother. Yes, I still do like him but I don't want to act on it, not interested anymore.
2) I'm starting to get really anxious because I looked at my best friend's facebook and there was this girl answering questions on a post that tagged him. Well one of them said, would you kiss? She said, 'Nah lol,' then the next question was, 'would you date?' She said, ' No ;)' and reading that I pretty much got really anxious. I don't know if she's joking, jokingly being flirtatious, trying to hide that she really likes him, being honest and goofing around, or truly trying to get him. I just.. I don't know why but I can't deal with the fact that he has a lot of other girls that love him that he could date or be married to (or maybe that's just me overthinking) while I'm stranded here, sinking, about to drowned and it doesn't matter... but I don't know if that's the case, and this shouldn't even bother me! Like we aren't dating and I wouldn't want to date him. I just want to be close friends again and I know we're capable of it because we've done it after the break up but my anxiety and his keeps getting in the freaking way!! But then... my mom told me that his parents communicated that their son/my best friend isn't even looking at girls anymore and has taken the break up harshly. I'm just so confused...
Lastly 3) I've realized that I don't trust people.... and it's really hard... The past three days I've been dealing with this and it's becoming really hard. I've wanted to hang out with the same counselor mother I've been talking about to tell her I feel disconnected and closed up.
I don't really know how to explain my situation, exactly. I've been through a lot, lets say, I did things I regret, and it's lost my trust with people. Like i'm closed up to myself and I didn't even realize it until now. This has been a problem for a couple years and that may be why I NEVER talk to guys, like I don't trust them at all. I'm also very selective on my friends and only talk to people if I'm comfortable(which goes along with anxiety). It's not something that's witnessed but felt. Now I trust all of you because I know you're dealing with anxiety just like me, that you'll understand and not judge and look at me like i'm crazy.
I feel like this explains a lot of my relationships and communication, but I don't really know how to explain it either.
So... I've been dealing with this and I really need help. I don't know what to do. I was diagnosed with anxiety last December so it's still really new and I don't quite know how to deal with it yet. Any advice? Or even saying that you know how I feel means the world!
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