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Losing a friend

Christopher22
Christopher22
I feel like I'm losing a good friend and it's got me really depressed. She has a car now and is off doing stuff with her friend and is gone a good part of the day. We used to spend our days talking and I've realized those days are over. I'm going to have a lot more alone time and I'm not good with that because I get very bored and lonely. I don't have a car so I can't really get out and meet friends so I'm sort of stuck at home with nowhere to go and really no one to talk to a good part of the time. Seems I'm not a priority anymore and I really don't blame her she has a life of her and needs to pursue real friends but I don't know what I'm going to do. Soon I'm afraid I will be forgotten. I live on disability and really can't afford any of my hobbies and I don't have cable. I should take some classes or I just need to develop a network of friends but I've put myself in a really bad position and I don't see a way out of it. Anyway I guess I'm just feeling sorry for myself or so she tells me.
HannaHana
HannaHana
I totally get what it feels like to worry about losing a friend...especially when you don't have many. I have the same problem (that I don't have many friends). However, I've become the busy one. I don't think she'll forget you. I know I still think of my few friends plenty, despite the fact that I'm never around to talk or anything.

I guess you could try to see what types of hobbies or games or something that you could do with your time (and afford). Anything is better than sitting around just thinking about "how much it sucks to be you". Been there, done that, and it's not good for anything.

I hope you get this figured out soon. (((HUGS)))
deleted_user
deleted_user
Sorry you are feeling so bad about your friend. Chris, you are a warm and caring person. I bet there are many people who would like to be your friend. Try church first, a young adults and or singles and career group.

You can find someone to be your friend, Just don't give up, and praying for you!
Christopher22
Christopher22
I would love to go to church but the buses don't run there and there isn't one within reasonable walking distance from me.
deleted_user
deleted_user
As far as cable show, try hulu.com might have some shows to keep you busy. Also there are plenty of games to play with frinds online. Maybe a neighbor has a small dog you can dogsit for a couple days a week. Not for pay of course, but i find pets are always good at raising spirits. As far as church is concerned, i would try calling the church and letting them know your situation. There are many church volunteers maybe one lives by you and can give you a ride. Is there a school near by? I used to volunteer helping kids read. Teachers always need help in the class though see if you can do that. Next time you go to the doctor have him check your vitamin D levels that can affect your mood. Make sure you get at least 15 minutes of sun per day...no inside hermiting.
Also if there is a senior center near by you can volunteer there. So many residents dont get visitors but once or twice a year. They are almost bursting to talk to someone and i find they have the BEST stories to tell.
heretic
heretic
There are so many opportunities for people who have the time. You are lucky you don't have to work, but getting out of the house around people sounds like what you want, so just start looking at what is around you. And once you have other things going on in your life your friend may drift back to you. I know it's hard but what are the options?