i know some of you have had to deal with the same thing..my first husband always pointed the finger at my drinking and he couldn't live without drinking soooooooo i had to go to aa rehabs and detoxes while he sat home and drank and cried the blues (drunken blues) about his wifes drinking problem..today i'm sober 2 years and had 4 years before before that and 2 years before that..had my slips but alot of time not drinking well its many years later..been divorced many years and he's still drinking daily drunk alot..long after we were divorced (years) he was still talking about my drinking problem..nothing i can do about it..its just that i hear similar things happening to others and it just urks me..why should someone sit around drinking and focus on the other ones problem..aaaaaaaaaaah!!!!! thanks for letting me vent