Hey everyone. Well, here goes. My girlfriend is a crack addict. We live together and she has a job and her own money, so I do not support it. I am emotionally at the end of my rope. She keeps telling me she has hit bottom and will never do it again, and I know she wants that, but I also know she is lying now. It's been too many times. She lies to me like it is second nature, a God given ability. I don't understand that. I could never lie to the face of someone I love, knowing that they would be so hurt. She is also bipolar and I don't think her psychiatrist is prescribing the right medication for that. The mood swings and constant lying and manipulating is driving me to an early grave. I really want to help her, but I don't know what to do. We live together. I can't afford an apartment on my own and we have a lease. I am also afraid that she will spiral downward if I completely give up on her. I don't want her to die. She used to shoot up heroin and cocaine, so I really think she does not think this is a big deal. She thinks it's just a fun thing to do, until she overdoes it. Only then she realizes she has a problem, but forgets the next day. Mood swing. Please advise if you can.
Hi I'm so sorry your girlfriend is having this addiction problem. Lieing is apart of addiction. It is so second nature to the adict they believe their own lies.Its really scary. Perhaps you can get her to go into a rehab program. It she doesn;t I;m afraid she will end up losing her life. They never think it will happen to them. Its so sad. I will ask the Lord to help you and your girlfriend. I pray she will seek the help she needs. God Bless
You may not be supporting her financially, but you are supporting her emotionally and physically simply by being in relationship with her. Talk to your landlord. If she can afford and stay in the apartment alone.. that's fine.
If not find out what your termination fee would be. Rent a room from someone. You don't need a whole apartment for yourself. Cocaine/crack use is very common in untreated bipolar.
Are you planning to move on or are you hoping she will get better? I wasted 12 years of marriage hoping things will get better with my alcoholic, drug addict and mentally ill husband but it got worse.. I am done trying to fix my marriage...I look sharp in that pic but emotionally I am completely destroyed... So I feel that I will never have the guts to get involved in another relationship... too afraid of being disappointed by a guy with addictions or with other type of problems (guys wsith debts, gamblers, crooks, criminals etc) that would affect my happiness... you better off getting a alanon guy for a room mate... planning to get a female alanon room mate myself... good luck to you and good luck to me... lol
If not find out what your termination fee would be. Rent a room from someone. You don't need a whole apartment for yourself. Cocaine/crack use is very common in untreated bipolar.