I live in a very small town and have 4 children.  Everyone knows that my husband is an alcoholic and has lost control of his life.  I am too embarrased to go to AA meetings because our town talks so much.  Yes, I could go out of town but that is unrealistic. I would like to know if this group has members that can offer advice about living with an addict and holding a marriage and family together.  I am not ready to leave my husband and really want to help him but realize that I am an enabler and honestly not sure where to even start in trying to stop enabling. I am a HUGE Codependant.  I am seeking encouragement and helpful advice on how to strengthen me and truly understand better the addiction.  How I can help my children, How to find the right words when explaining that their dads actions doesnt mean he dosent love us.  Seriously I could go on and on. Lets start here

Feeling hopeful.