My 21 year old son lives with me .he can't afford a place on his own. His dad my husband passed away a year ago. My son for a long time has anger issues. And I can' trust him cause he lies. I have heath issues .I was burned by hot tea was accident but because that happened have to put off hip surgery. Walking is bad for me. My son works part time and will help me . But when confronted about things that I don't want him doing in my house his anger comes out and he yells at me and sweas at me. Money is tight and he spends money like we have a money tree. He won' get a full time job. He needs a car. And when I bring it up he gets angry and I get called terrible names. He is a slob not only his room but now the rest of the house. At some point I need to sell my house. Had friends come over and clean out my basement and without me knowing he put his stuff he did not want down there and hoged it up. When he does stuff I have to go back and check it. He never puts stuff back. I keep my house at 60 and he always tells me it is to cold so he has been jacking heat in room to 75. I can feel the heat down the hall I confront him he lies and I walk in his room it is like a tropical island.  Then he gets so angry that I don' believe him.he has lied and broken trust with me for so long. When he gets angry the gutter rat side of him shows up and he swears and says some nasty stuff. I told him the rules to live hear was to pay rent and help out and no swearing and lie ing  to get a full time job. We have talked about therapy. But  nothing changes. Things have started coming in the mail that he bought .he buys pez and pop figures and says he can sell them for a lot of money.  instead of getting full time job. Like he bought pop figurus and he can't get anyone to buy them. Next summer I am putting  house up for sale and I told him he can't  move with me. Cause the way he treats me. Wish I could kick him out but he does help with money and does drive to help when I need it and will do some cleaning. I have another son who is 18 and lives here to and he says to him please talk nicer to mom and stop causing trouble. I don' know what to do so our family can live in peace.