Hello everyone,

I just needed a place to validate what I am thinking is correct. I am 33 years old and I just figured out (I think) my mother is a narcissist recently.  We have never had the best relationship and I never really knew why.  Recently she and my dad divorced and her hatered towards my father kind of transcended onto me as well, as I am lot like my father and I have always been closer to him. She was verbally and financially abusing my dad and for his mental health he needed to get out of that realtionship.  On a personal level with my mother, she has always favored my little sister over me and has never really shown empathy towards anyone.  Everytime I try to share my feelings with her, she tells me I am to sensitive.  I have not talked to her really for about a year now; we have had some contact but not much.  I feel bad about this but I also know that I needed some time away from her to get my head on straight.  It's like I can't talk to her and I really don't know how. Whenever I say something: it's always a fight.....unless I am talking about I did something wrong. I have talked to a thearpist about the situation and I do believe her advice was good. The therapists advice was to only talk to my mother when it is a conversation I want to be a part of; basically I should not reward her bad behavior with the reward of getting talk to me.  I know I need to be more in control of the conversations but when I am, it turns into a fight and I fear I won't be able to talk to my mother again.  I am grieving the loss of her in a way because growing up, she wasn't all bad but I can't let her treat me like crap as an adult either and I don't think she will ever realize what she does.  In her mind, she is always right and everyone else is always wrong.  I have heard her apologize maybe 3 times in my lifetime and only one of those times seemed sincere.  Just needed a place to vent with others that understand, thank you for taking the time to read this.