Hi, I just started looking into ACA. My family was not alcoholic but dysfunctional beyond belief. I recently realized it was like living in a cult without the religion part. There was some addiction in the family but more mental illness and personality problems. I tried going to an ACA meeting in my area but they seemed to have a very strict set of rules that just seemed over the top. For example- if someone is crying, don't offer a tissue, they may be offended. WTF? It's a tissue, not a personal attack. In fact it could be more for just good hygiene than anything else. I am looking for somewhere to post ideas, thoughts, problems , etc and get input beyond my therapist. The group I checked out was more interested in just quoting and reading from the book. I am more of a thinker than that. I am currently on a few other boards here for the past 3 years but sometimes I need a different perspective. Thanks