Adult Children of a Borderline Parent Community Group
Not everyone has been blessed with a stable upbringing. Adult children of borderline parents come with their own set of troubles to deal with. Re-Learning boundries and finding clarity can be difficult. Join here and let us take this journey together.
Wondering people's thoughts on..
Reconnecting to the parents that we have been wounded by. Simply for the sake of really knowing the person behind the disorder.. maybe more of their journey a d their story. Before time runs out. Looking past our parents' disorder if for just a period of time.. as a healing process in Co fronting some of our repressed sadness and regaining maybe a small piece that longed to have a positive relationship with mother in an idealic way. I know my mom is getting older and when I think back on it all there's so much I never got to know about my mom. Most of which is burried deep inside her. And we couldn't always see from fighting so hard to resist.buttruly as an adult. Your thoughts on coming forward to sort of interview or investigate more about our parents and their lives past abuses their full story to better heal ourselves.i believe most of the pain as children comes from not understanding and blaming ourselves. Your thoughts and how u would go about it and if u have how r u doing so far with it.i know my mom's shared bits and pieces.. but knowing she herself has burried so much I feel like only I could bring that out. If only for the last times.
I know a lot of my mom's past abuse, and while it helps me understand her, it doesn't help the pain she inflicted hurt any less. But that might be because I'm not ready and what she does still really hurts me. If I was healed and whole maybe I could withstand her jabs. I don't know if I would want to put myself in that situation though. Maybe if she only has a little time left, and she can't threaten you or your relationships in any way, maybe it would be fine.
If u to decide to contact her, might be a good idea to work with a therapist first who is well-versed in bpd, to make sure you’re prepared (as much as possible)