Adult Children of a Borderline Parent Community Group
Not everyone has been blessed with a stable upbringing. Adult children of borderline parents come with their own set of troubles to deal with. Re-Learning boundries and finding clarity can be difficult. Join here and let us take this journey together.
has anyone experienced this? it is extremely messy. She steals my friends, lies to me about them, lies about me to them. to the point they are no longer my friends but hers. in a few years the circus ends and she find another easy target that I am developing a friendship with.
I am an adult and choose not to run in her circles or have much contact, but it happened over the winter again to a friend that I thought would hve been immune to her manipulation.
Has anyone else gone through this?
have you ever tried to talk to the friend? she might think i am crazy. I have always just cut my loses in the past.
any thoughts?
With this particular friend, my mom has been inserting herself for 6+ months. I thought the friendship was lost. I hadn't even seen this friend in months.
She contacted me and said she missed me. I thought, ok here we go. She's probably going to try to manipulate me to do my mom's bidding. I didn't know what to do.
I was really honest in a letter that ended up being almost 3 pages long.
She (friend) was totally on my side from the beginning. I guess I didn't give her, or our friendship enough credit.
It's so emotional, I've been conditioned my entire life to keep and protect my mom's secrets. And I am free from lies, I am free to live my own life, and someone actually knows how I feel and believes me.
It's so weird. I feel so weird.
Sorry for the rant. I'm new to this. This group is saving my life right now. This is my last chance. If you haven't grown up with this type of person you just don't get it. Thank you all!