Adult Children of a Borderline Parent Community Group
Not everyone has been blessed with a stable upbringing. Adult children of borderline parents come with their own set of troubles to deal with. Re-Learning boundries and finding clarity can be difficult. Join here and let us take this journey together.
My mom calls me today while I'm at work and I can't pick up, and text her that I'm at work and can't talk. Then she responds out of nowhere:
"I'm getting really angry AND hurt. This is indeed to make you feel guilty. All the blah blah about righting wrongs? Honoring your mother and? I'm done."
I have literally no idea what she's talking about. My head begins racing trying to figure out what I did. But I know I did nothing wrong! Plus I don't have the time to deal with her drama while I'm at work. She just threw a wrench in my lovely day and I don't have the strength to call her and figure out what the hell she is even talking about.
Why does she act this way?! I just wish she would be a supportive, thoughtful parent and ask how my day is going.
The best I have done is getting distance by not responding or communicating.
I don't like my mom's actions. I also wish mine was supportive. But she's just not, she's not going to understand my feelings. She even will not understand that I don't hate her, I just need space. Her made up reality is the only thing she can see. And it hurts, so I choose not o engage. And try not to let her into my thoughts. Meditation, self awareness, Ignation spirituality have helped me grow.
Hope this helps. I get it.