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Hi all,
Im searching around trying to find some support, my Husband has told me how he was told he had ADHD/ADD….but he blew it off as rubbish.
Can you help me on this, our marriage is so difficult and I don't know what to do.
His behaviour has always baffled me somewhat but ya know we are all different , and thats ok, but its really beginning to worry me now.
How can I explain?
He seems to have a terrible memory,
I have to tell him the same things three or four times a day,
he doesn't seem to be able to retain information,
he has never been able to read a book,
he flits from one thing to another without finishing any of them,
he doesn't seem to be able to think ahead and is very impulsive,
if he is doing a task if I interrupt him he cannot restart without difficulty,
he seems oblivious to others, and often does /says really inappropriate things.
if Im not in front of him he doesn't think of me,
its his way or no way,
he seems to have difficulty connecting the dots with situations ( such as, the ovens on so I must be going to be cooking?!)
he can never remember the correct words for things.
He will turn the radio up in the car when I start to talk.
Eats constantly.
I find it very difficult not be short and irritated with him when he makes me feel like he doesn't hear me or take notice of my replies to things. It makes me feel like he disregards my opinions and answers to his questions.
So when he mentioned ADD I was somewhat relieved…but he hasn't taken this on board. He says no ones perfect.
He really seems oblivious to how his actions make others feel…I don't think he means to upset people.
He comes across as stupid and lazy to my children as he asks the same things more than once and gets his words wrong.
We have been together two years and Im worried for us as a couple.
He is kind and generous and good fun though. I want to make it work but his seemed 'thoughtlessness' hurts me every day.
He has three ex wives, the last one had him tested for Aspergers, but it was not diagnosed, and it was mentioned about ADd when his nephew was diagnosed and people commented on the similarity between them.
I appreciate he is what he is, but I need ways to cope and not be so hurt by him.
any advice please?
Im searching around trying to find some support, my Husband has told me how he was told he had ADHD/ADD….but he blew it off as rubbish.
Can you help me on this, our marriage is so difficult and I don't know what to do.
His behaviour has always baffled me somewhat but ya know we are all different , and thats ok, but its really beginning to worry me now.
How can I explain?
He seems to have a terrible memory,
I have to tell him the same things three or four times a day,
he doesn't seem to be able to retain information,
he has never been able to read a book,
he flits from one thing to another without finishing any of them,
he doesn't seem to be able to think ahead and is very impulsive,
if he is doing a task if I interrupt him he cannot restart without difficulty,
he seems oblivious to others, and often does /says really inappropriate things.
if Im not in front of him he doesn't think of me,
its his way or no way,
he seems to have difficulty connecting the dots with situations ( such as, the ovens on so I must be going to be cooking?!)
he can never remember the correct words for things.
He will turn the radio up in the car when I start to talk.
Eats constantly.
I find it very difficult not be short and irritated with him when he makes me feel like he doesn't hear me or take notice of my replies to things. It makes me feel like he disregards my opinions and answers to his questions.
So when he mentioned ADD I was somewhat relieved…but he hasn't taken this on board. He says no ones perfect.
He really seems oblivious to how his actions make others feel…I don't think he means to upset people.
He comes across as stupid and lazy to my children as he asks the same things more than once and gets his words wrong.
We have been together two years and Im worried for us as a couple.
He is kind and generous and good fun though. I want to make it work but his seemed 'thoughtlessness' hurts me every day.
He has three ex wives, the last one had him tested for Aspergers, but it was not diagnosed, and it was mentioned about ADd when his nephew was diagnosed and people commented on the similarity between them.
I appreciate he is what he is, but I need ways to cope and not be so hurt by him.
any advice please?
Your hubby sounds like he has a strong case of ADD most definitely! I have taken meds for over 10years now and recently started taking a new one that's out there called Vyvance it lasts 8 hours and slowly wears off unlike the adderall that would really take a dive oh my not good :-( Still another thing I found was cutting out wheat this really made a difference in my mental memory and not getting my words switched around. I know it sounds crazy that eating wheat could do this. I strongly suggest reading " the belly fat cook book or belly fat diet" also the book "Grain Brain" it has some info about how wheat is a dietary problem for many people.
Hope this info to helps you. This sight is not very active I'm not sure why but as you can see nobody has responded to the top three I have made comments on here and that was several weeks ago.