Where do I begin? We dated a little over a year and she was finally diagnosed with ADHD. I pushed her to get checked out. She had all the symptoms. She acted obnoxious, she forgot everything. Her house was a disaster. Finally with Streterra sp? and Prozac she seems to be acting somewhat better. She still has problems with memory however. She forgets important things.

Here's the problem: when I remind her to do things, she usually acts annoyed that I'm reminding her. She's very argumentative and just generally disagreeable to begin with. I don't know how to remind her without her getting defensive. It's annoying. I think being a contrarian and just being disagreeable comes with her adhd. I've thought about breaking up with her because sometimes I feel like I'm dating an obnoxious irresponsible child and it's frustrating. With her general lack of organization, poor time management, bad memory, I worry about getting married. I feel that marriage would be a bad idea. Anyway, does anyone have any advice on how not to take her symptoms so personally? Btw, and I know this is ironic, I was diagnosed with ADHD  years ago, but my symptoms are much less severe and are manageable.