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The softer side of growing up in a dysfunctional home... a sanctuary to feel home with friends and never alone.
I grew up in New Jersey and seeing the destruction of that state has hit home with me. Spent many times while in high school on the Seaside Heights shore.
So anyway, I sent out a newsletter for my website to people that subscribe to it and made mention of how that shoreline brought me many hours of peace from an insane childhood.
Within in an hour of sending it, I got an e-mail from a cousin. A great lady... ten months older then me, we chat occasionally and it's always a great conversation. She shared how her home and her sisters home sustained some damage but they were OK and they had power and she was looking forward to returning to work. A great e-mail.
Today, I got another e-mail from my oldest brother. The ultimate control freak, we're not close at all and if it wasn't for the blood we share we wouldn't have anything to do with each other.
His first sentence was correcting my use of the word "shore" to people outside of New Jersey, that I should have used "beach" instead. WHAT?
Then his note goes on to say how he has been in a shelter for six days because they have no power. His home is maybe 15 miles from our cousins... and only 30 miles from another brother. But ask for help and a place to stay? Oh no... can't do that.
These two brothers haven't spoken in 30 years and both blame each other for my parents' alcoholism. Insanity to its fullest.
He won't ask these cousins for help because they aren't up to his standards. Amazing!!!
And I used to think I was the sick one. LOL
So anyway, I sent out a newsletter for my website to people that subscribe to it and made mention of how that shoreline brought me many hours of peace from an insane childhood.
Within in an hour of sending it, I got an e-mail from a cousin. A great lady... ten months older then me, we chat occasionally and it's always a great conversation. She shared how her home and her sisters home sustained some damage but they were OK and they had power and she was looking forward to returning to work. A great e-mail.
Today, I got another e-mail from my oldest brother. The ultimate control freak, we're not close at all and if it wasn't for the blood we share we wouldn't have anything to do with each other.
His first sentence was correcting my use of the word "shore" to people outside of New Jersey, that I should have used "beach" instead. WHAT?
Then his note goes on to say how he has been in a shelter for six days because they have no power. His home is maybe 15 miles from our cousins... and only 30 miles from another brother. But ask for help and a place to stay? Oh no... can't do that.
These two brothers haven't spoken in 30 years and both blame each other for my parents' alcoholism. Insanity to its fullest.
He won't ask these cousins for help because they aren't up to his standards. Amazing!!!
And I used to think I was the sick one. LOL
Funny How They can Bash us (In my Case) Sometimes on a Daily Basis, but when they "NEED" or Desire Something, I"m Back on the "Sis" List! I Thank God for the "Detachment" in Al-anon I Have Hangin in about every place known to man that can Protect & Remind me when to just Detach! Its a Shame that Family just can't be Family without attacking each other... And Just for the Record... I was Aware when you said "Shore" it could also mean "beach"...lol... But I'm Sure your Grateful he Cleared that up! lol
My Family disease Runs Deeper then I Ever thought! My ASis Finds Many things to Distract her from looking at herself, and if that works for her, then Great... But all i See is a Miserable person, unhappy at every turn! I am So Surprized at the Differance My LIfe has taking just gettin into a Program of HOPE! and that is what it is for me! I Life Line to HOPE!
So Grateful to have you all here! In My Life, On My Journey, and In My Program, So when my Family of Origan are being "Normal"... I Can Still Find Peace!
Grateful your Family is OK Dave! Thanks for Thinkin of Me! I Feel Blessed we didn't get what they thought we would, and the Flooding didn't hit where they estimated, so God was Very Good that Day indeed!
Sending Love & Prayers your Way My Friend... :o)
ONENESS =)
In my group therapy tonight we spoke about the fact that for most of us...this recent hurricane (Sandy) triggered a lot of things in each one of us Different triggers....different responses to them. Just glad things are getting back to normal around here:)