Abusive Relationships Community Group
This group is for those that have been in abusive relationships, know someone who is in an abusive relationships, or is currently in one. It is ok if you are a male victim or a female victim. If you need to vent just let it out.
How many years do you live in a relationship and keep pretending it's perfect? How do you keep telling yourself that it's all going to be okay when it so clearly isn't.
Where do you draw the line between things getting out of hand and abuse? What is abuse exactly and how do I know if I'm being emotionally and physically abused? Does simple shoving count as physical abuse? What if there is never a bruise? What if he simply pushes me down or throws things at me? Is that still physical abuse? If so how do I begin to acknowledge someone I love this much could be capable of that, let alone leave him?
What about emotional abuse? Is making me feel replaceable emotional abuse? How about when he says I'm useless? That I'll never be able to do better than him. Is that emotional abuse? I'm so confused and I just need an outside unbiased source (someone who doesn't know either of us personally) to clarify these details for me. Am I overreacting or is my family right?
Am I being emotionally and physically abused....?
I had and still have to this day have those same questions. And I have said those exact words. I know about wanting an unbiased opinion. Right now I am seeing a therapist and although it is going okay, it is slow going because I simply can't open up to anyone about this. I think my therapist may be suspecting I have things to hide . . . . It's the hardest thing - I am such a private person and so afraid of the reaction I may get from others if I were ever to tell them what my ex husband has done and still does to this day. I am afraid they won't believe me, I am afraid they won't think it's a big deal, I am afraid they will somehow justify his behaviours...i know how that sounds . . . but it's how I feel. I am also very afraid that my two young daughters, if this information ever became public, would find this out about their father. I bend over backwards protecting him for them, protecting him in front of everyone. I am so stuck.