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Never good enough

Heidiclark
Heidiclark

Hello everyone.  I just need to unload something that I carry around all the time.  I'm not here very much and am usually on the depressison board, but mostly to help others as I don't post my own problems there any more.  Anyway, I have a 19 year old son who I love more than life itself but no matter what I am constantly plagued with thoughts of not being a good enough mom.  It really torments me all day long.  Even though he has said to me, once, that I am a good mom and even though he told my best friend, whose daughter is his girlfriend, that I am a good mom, it just doesn't seem to matter.  No matter what I do it's never enough.

Ladybug7
Ladybug7
Hi Heidi...Are you currently battling depression? I ask because depression tells lies. It often results in cognitive distortions that lead us to believe we're not good enough, things will never change, etc.. These cognitive distortions include all-or-nothing thinking, overgeneralization, discounting the positives, and emotional reasoning (i.e. I feel like I'm not good enough. Therefore, it must be true.).

Sometimes it can help to keep a journal of the positive experiences we have every day. Depression has a way of making us overlook the good stuff. Also, seriously consider other viewpoints, like those of your son. Even if you don't feel adequate, he obviously thinks highly of you.

I hope you feel better soon! Hugs!
Group Foundergramybear
gramybear
Hi sweety. It's so good to hear from you but wish it was under more happy circumstances. I have told you so many times that you ARE a good mother and I only wish you believed it as much as I believe in you. I have been friends with you long enough to know how wonderful you are with Josh and how much you love one another. Please call whenever you need to. I am always always here for you!!! I may not be on DS but you have my e mail address and my phone number!! Love and many hugs...
Group Foundergramybear
gramybear
A card is on the way!!!! Love you lots my wonderful friend!!!
Heidiclark
Heidiclark
Thanks everyone. Yes I am battling depression but will never give up no matter what.
Heidiclark
Heidiclark
I should add that some days are better than others with this. Thanks again.
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