I seldom lie.

But it's not always necessary to tell the truth either.

For example, I work with dementia patients. One's 95 years old and walking the halls at 1 in the morning and she's upset that her mother doesn't know where she is. (I'm atheist....but most people aren't. From her point of view (when she was mentally all there, her mother in heaven would know where she is)......so my response is "Your mom knows you're here, everything's fine, you're spending the night with us"

That's not lying (from a certain point of view), but it's not the whole truth either.


It also illustrates a point. There IS a time to lie, and that's when it's in the best long and short term interests of the person that you're lying too.

One of the problems with lying is that once a person begins to do it regularly and begins to become comfortable with doing it, he or she may start to tell bigger and bigger lies, until eventually the person tells a lie that ends a relationships or gets the person fired from a job.

Imagine the following scenario: You are in your neighborhood when a group of enemy soldiers approach you. Their leader demands that you tell him where the women and children are located. You know that the women and children are hiding in the hills. Should you tell the soldier where they are, or should you lie to protect them?

Now imagine this: You have been brought up or conditioned to tell people that everything is wonderful even when something is wrong. But something really bad has happened to you and it is making your life extremely difficult. You need help. Should you continue to lie and tell everyone that everything is fine, or should you find one or a few people to whom you can tell the truth, which is that everything is not fine?

Lying or diplomacy?

ever heard of a lie becomes the truth? for a lot of people who constantly lie all of their lives, their lies become their truth which is ass backwards. i had this ex friend whom i met in 7th grade and were friends until we were 19 then i broke up the friendship i dont know if u wanna call it a friendship. she is a narc and a great liar how she had friends is beyond me and she was losing friends because of her lying but always quick to point out my "irrational attitude." she should look at herself.

the saying always goes if u lie constantly, there may come a day where u could be telling the truth and nobody will believe you.

"Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbor.”

-Exodus, chapter 20, verse 16

Past generations followed this commandment. If it was good enough for them, it is good enough for me.