You are not alone and there is usually no use of trying to explain this to people who are blessed with a good mother and a good dad. It is not our fault and we just need to make the best of our life. I know it can be hard, and we all have our down days, but I know how this "mothersday" thing can make us crazy. Peace and Love. And have a good sunday.

I really don't know if I loved my mother I did care about her and at the same time I wonder if she ever loved me,she never cared about me or thingsI wanted for my life.I wish that I could give advice on how to mend your relationship with your parents but I don't how to.Both my parents are dead,I did love my dad but I am not sure if I loved my mom,my advice to you is try something I didn't do just try before it's to late.

Mothers day was just one more excuse for mom to get angry and stay angry with me
If I used all my carefully saved allowance to pay for a group from the kids, shed wait a couple weeks and then be "upset" with me for not getting a "special" individual gift for her.
Dad was the silent partner. He'd jump right on board and "explain" that as oldest I SHOULD realize mom deserved to get something she longed for from me. And she had e dry right to be sad that I could not be bothered to do more than tag along on my si lings gift. Neither cared that I paid for every single thing including the fancy paper and moat expensive cards my sins got for her

I still hate mothers day. August every year she'd get depressed and blame me for some stupod rot about mothers day. She knew exactly how long it took me to save up again so she could pout to get dad angry at me to. Then everyone jumped on board to attack me.

O still hate Christmas, mothers day, fathers day, anniversaries, any day where gifts are given. Mine are never God enough and I stay tense for months waiting to find out what a piece of suit I am for everything.

All those "holidays" are just a bunch of "crap", good for the economy to spend money on stuff, it is disgusting what some people think is "love". A present does not make any relationship better, even a big present does not make it better. There are mothers and there are moms, everybody can give birth to a child, but not everybody is a mother or a mom. If they are so evil than there is nothing we can do to mend anything, we just need to stay away, or move far far far away from them. We need to learn how to love ourselves and don't look back. Happy Sunday. Peace and Love.

i never liked mother's day. i do remember when i was a kid, i made my mother a paper pot for mother's day. she seemed so happy then later on cruel since then i never made anymore gifts like that. i grew up hating both mother's day and father's day and dont want anything to do with those days.

what i do is use mother's day as a way to get what i want: money for gas, money for lunch, etc to get on my mom's "good side" if thats what u wanna call it. a lot of people dont agree with me like i give a shit im not the one who has a good mom and dad. my bf has a better mom than i ever will i hope he gave his mom the mom card for her.

at least today i will be getting lunch and a cake out of it...

It is taboo to criticize one's parents, isn't it? Maybe that's part of the reason we keep all this garbage bottled up inside ourselves.

I try not to listen to the Mother's day stuff. All the emails about special Mother's day pricing on gifts get deleted before I open any of my mail. If my mother was the saint everyone said she was, why did she neglect me like she did? It was her choice to spend so much of the household grocery money getting herself smashed on beer every day, not mine.

I'm grateful for the ways she did try to help me, but I also remember all the nasty stuff she did to me too. I suppose that in the end she is just another selfish person like the rest of the people I've dealt with in my life. And didn't they all pretend to be doing things for our good when it's plain that it was their own selfish needs that always came first?

I'm with you too. I don't think it's a taboo if the individuals in question loose the honor because of their lousy behavior.

A high five to you, Jen...for speaking the truth.

Do people still do high fives?

I'd high-five you. Yes. I HATE Father's Day. What a crock. I didn't have a Mom....so it doesn't bother me anymore. It's been too long since she passed.

In general....I really loathe all holidays---because there are awful memories associated with them. I don't mind decorating and preparing for them....but when it comes down to the actual day...I would rather be under my covers.

High Five to all of us who survived that aftermath of abuse from the motherf**ers who gave us bad memories of our childhood. But seriously, I do commend each and everyone of you here who have their say in this.

My sister changed her Facebook profile pic to one of our mother. The comments she got were so nice. they all knew her and said Alice is now is heaven and an angel. Oh god if they only knew. Well actually they did know her and her psychotic behaviour. and yet they go and say nice things about her.

Now if I said anything and I have to my sibs, they tell me to get over it. Well that's fine for them to say. They didn't have to endure the pain and anguish of hell that mommy dearest created. They all got off easy. And to this day they will say none of that ever happened. It did believe me. I have the memories to prove it. I remember it all.

Mother's Day is an economic grab like any other holiday. I celebrate the person I am now. I nurture my own inner child and take excellent care of me.

Now what to do with the memories...................

Linda

i question one's parent all the time. as a matter of fact, we as people need to stop turning our heads the other way and start questioning these parents, their past, and their behaviors because if we dont we are just letting them do what they want, hurt the kids, and give them a pat on the back.

ive been saying that for years, wrote those arguments in my research papers, and i told my therapist this. i said all we do in this country is make justifications for other lousy family members yet the kids still suffer like we are the problem. i always see on tv about family abuse is nobody on there complains much about the parents or other relatives, i always see how the kids get the fingers pointed at them.

my therapist looks at me when i say this stuff. i dont know she feels my mom can be saved lmao i told her wishful thinking good luck! i need to do something nice for her she tells me i just looked at her i said why am i the one who is suppose to do something nice 4 her? she created this garbage herself why dont she fix it?