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We survived child abuse, but the pain still remains and so do the other effects which can last a lifetime. We are often unable to find adequate help, and we are seeking answers that can help us understand what happened so that we can go on to lead normal lives. (Please note that this is a group for child abuse survivors only. If you are a professional in the mental health...

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Beaumont 04/21/2013

We're all at various stages on a journey that looks somewhat like this:

We start out Lost, then we are Victims, then we are Survivors, and next we become Thrivers, and then we reach a state of being called Life Beyond Abuse, or if you prefer, simply Beyond.

Supposing for just a moment that medications, therapies, support groups, and other treatments are for helping us get better, what is it that comes after all of these things, for you and and me and other survivors of child abuse? How would you describe what we are all seeking that comes after these things? How would you describe the phase called Beyond?

deleted_user 04/21/2013

I must say that I'm not totally "there" YET, But I am putting "distance" from a lot of my issue. Many of my triggers no long send me into that downward spiral, they have more become "reminders" of how far I have grown. I am not as "active" in my own healing and more active in helping others in their journey as best as I can. I am now starting to enjoy the little things in life, stuff that was invisible before since I couldn't see past my own darkness. Still have some hard work to do, but it's becoming easier as long as I stay determined and disciplined in keeping myself moving forward. The Peace and Serenity that I truly wish all here on this site find, is well within my own reach! Blaine

JOYHOLY 04/21/2013

LOVE LUCY**

deleted_user 04/21/2013

Beyond for me would be no triggers, shame, confusion and backward steps. I am who I am because I was abused I can't change my past but I have a choice of my future, all I want is to be the real me without the influences of my past, still controlling me

enoughalreadynow 04/22/2013

Beyond for me means an ongoing experience of the morning I had - absence of fear, joy, confidence and the like that I didn't have to ponder, it was just there. And because it was just there, I could relax and just be. Now I'm having a panic attack of sorts which may have been triggered by my smoking (weird I know) and I have to think about being what I was this morning.

I just want to be happy. I want it to be the norm with an occasional low rather than the other way around.

Beaumont 04/24/2013

Wow, I'm thrilled to hear that some folks are moving toward a Life Beyond Abuse.

For me, something I've always wanted to be able to do is talk about what happened to me without my voice shaking or tears coming to my eyes. When I am able to do that, I will consider myself very close to Beyond. Also, I want to be able to participate in life: have a job, a driver's license and car, real world friends, a church membership, and so forth.

Would anyone else like to add to this discussion topic?

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