A Child Abuse Survivors Group Community Group
We survived child abuse, but the pain still remains and so do the other effects which can last a lifetime. We are often unable to find adequate help, and we are seeking answers that can help us understand what happened so that we can go on to lead normal lives. (Please note that this is a group for child abuse survivors only. If you are a professional in the mental health...
You do not have to portray to others that everything is fantastic at all times. It is okay to feel down and out sometimes.
Many people feel they have to put on a front and hide if they are feeling down and out. Acting out that you are happy is hard on you when you are having a day where you do not feel in the best of spirits.
Why hide what you are truly feeling. It is normal to have ups and downs. It is okay to feel down and out and there is no reason why one has to be ashamed of this. Everyone experiences different emotions, moods and mind sets at all times. To be perky and on top of the world constantly would be abnormal!
If the people you are around are judgmental and do not want anything to do with you when you are having a low day, then you have to question how true of a friendship you really have.
Life contains ups and downs. It is like one big roller-coaster ride that we never know which turn it is going to take from one moment to the next. Whatever happens in a day or night effects how we feel. Some things that happen may not sit well within you, that is okay to feel the emotion that comes along with this. Humans feel, and sometimes we do not feel grand and happy at all times. So what, if people around you can not accept the fact that you are feeling down, then they know where the door is.
When you are feeling down and out, sometimes it is an over powering load of stress. It builds up over time and weighs you down. You can not have expectations of yourself to conquer all at all times and you surely should not feel down on yourself for feeling down.
When you have days feeling down and out the best thing to do is, listen to what your body and mind are telling you. There is obviously something that is weighing you down which is affecting you in a negative way.
Take time and rest yourself. Try to focus on things that are positive, something that will help make you feel better. Watch a comedy on television, call a supportive friend and let them know how you feel. It is amazing how one can feel awful and with a few words from a good friend can help lift you up again.
You do not have to try and push yourself into a happy state, but positive things around you can have a good effect on the down feeling. If you are feeling down and are surrounded by negative people, this will only make you feel worse.
Do not give yourself a hard time for feeling down and out. It is normal and everyone has those days where the clouds clutter the mind even if there is sunshine outside. So you do not have to feel bad for feeling bad and always remember, everything will come to pass. This includes feeling down and out.
Many people feel they have to put on a front and hide if they are feeling down and out. Acting out that you are happy is hard on you when you are having a day where you do not feel in the best of spirits.
Why hide what you are truly feeling. It is normal to have ups and downs. It is okay to feel down and out and there is no reason why one has to be ashamed of this. Everyone experiences different emotions, moods and mind sets at all times. To be perky and on top of the world constantly would be abnormal!
If the people you are around are judgmental and do not want anything to do with you when you are having a low day, then you have to question how true of a friendship you really have.
Life contains ups and downs. It is like one big roller-coaster ride that we never know which turn it is going to take from one moment to the next. Whatever happens in a day or night effects how we feel. Some things that happen may not sit well within you, that is okay to feel the emotion that comes along with this. Humans feel, and sometimes we do not feel grand and happy at all times. So what, if people around you can not accept the fact that you are feeling down, then they know where the door is.
When you are feeling down and out, sometimes it is an over powering load of stress. It builds up over time and weighs you down. You can not have expectations of yourself to conquer all at all times and you surely should not feel down on yourself for feeling down.
When you have days feeling down and out the best thing to do is, listen to what your body and mind are telling you. There is obviously something that is weighing you down which is affecting you in a negative way.
Take time and rest yourself. Try to focus on things that are positive, something that will help make you feel better. Watch a comedy on television, call a supportive friend and let them know how you feel. It is amazing how one can feel awful and with a few words from a good friend can help lift you up again.
You do not have to try and push yourself into a happy state, but positive things around you can have a good effect on the down feeling. If you are feeling down and are surrounded by negative people, this will only make you feel worse.
Do not give yourself a hard time for feeling down and out. It is normal and everyone has those days where the clouds clutter the mind even if there is sunshine outside. So you do not have to feel bad for feeling bad and always remember, everything will come to pass. This includes feeling down and out.
I have Celiac disease. Some people call me a "whiner" by the time I relate the challeges when we are out at dinner. Then I feel afraid to even discuss the normal challenges that everyone has.
It is really hard most of the time people don't get it at all.
Even on some groups on DS, some people think it is no big deal.
I understand I have the right to my feelings but I hate burdening others, especially
when I feel like I'm doing it often.
After I got married at a young age..... i discovered the hard why that my husband was the same way.... you are not allowed to express emotions. At times i have lets others know im not having an ok day and i felt down but then that information was only brought up and used against me....hiding how i felt has just because automatic as a way of coping and protecting myself..... i know its not healthy
GOOD 2 YOU SHOULD HAVE A LOVING RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR HUSBAND, AND BE ABLE TO TALK AND BE ABLE TO TALK AND SHARE, HE SHOULD BE THERE FOR YOU, LOVE YOU, CHERISH YOU, THAT WHAT MARRIAGE ITS ALL ABOUT, WE ARE NOT ROBOTS****
MY MARRIAGE FINISHED WHEN HE CONFESSED TO ADULTERY, I PUT UP WITH EVERYTHING ELSE BUT THIS WAS THE END, LOST ALL RESPECT..
LOVE TO ALL, LUCY**
Writing and journaling have been great ways for me to get it out. I just don't expect people to understand what I am going through any more because it is impossible for them to be in our shoes. People who grew up in normal happy families just cannot feel our pain.
It took my husband years to see what my Dad had done to me. The more my husband listened to my stories and the more he interacted with my Dad in my presence, the more he understood how much I had been through. My siblings also weighed in on our Dad's abuse with their own stories. My husband used to tell me to take the high road and make up with my Dad. Nope. Not going to happen. Been burned so many times. Done.
That being said, it does make me sad quite often when am triggered into remembering my childhood. My children have what I grieved for: two loving parents.