Hi KIttycat,
Really glad you found us, there is a lotof thought provoking and inspiration support here. Hope you feel welcome and safe.
Take good care
Alijo

Just like to say welcome and you will find this site very supportive with the help of many wonderful people, Blaine

I am going through hell right now the living situation I am in is not safe for me to be in but I don't have a choice right now but am trying to work on something to get out.

Is a women's shelter an option?

i am looking into that but so far none around by me and the that are are full.

want you advice on something: here is my living situation I am living with my dad brother and uncle. Now I am sharing the basement with my brother until the upstairs is being done built. My dad is adding on a 2nd story for me to live in. nice in a way but not in others. Now my brother is my abuser. I have been living in the basement since june of 2011 it was only supposed to be a short while but had some hangups with the construction. It is almost done but maybe another month or so. Now my brother has not tried to harm me in any way since last year but I am still afraid of him. He has been going in my room and staling things and tormenting me mentally. Now I have talked to a few people about this and they told me to go to a shelter until the construction is done. I have pets and not leaving them here. I have called a few places and they don't take pets and the ones that do are full. SO what I am asking is do I stay here and wait out until the construction is done or do I try and leave and try to find a place to go?? I suffer from bipolar depression and anxiety and PTSD so this is really bothering me. Anyone have any suggestions on what to do? It is kind of a complicated situation.

Do you have friends that can foster your pets? If you're very clear that you want them back and put it in writing this may be a help?

i only have 1 friend and she cant take them i already asked her.

Hi KIttycat,
I'm not really sure what your basement consists of but is there a way of avoiding him, or putting a lock on your bedroom?
When the construction is complete will you have like an apartment to yourself and would this stop your brother from getting in?
I think what I'm trying to say is when all the work is done will you be safe or triggered constantly, will you be safe?
If you don't feel safe have you told anyone? Like your dad?
If there are no shelters is there any other way of getting out maybe getting your own apartment? It just sounds like he is mentally abusing you and living in fear either from PTSD or the mental abuse and this has to change by either getting out, fronting him or if your apartment is safe when completed staying there. My gut feeling is try and get out. A bit of a random post sorry but for me safety is my top priority.
Take good care

i will have the whole second floor to myself yes. i will still see my brotherr though which may be a trigger but i will feel safer being upstriars though. no i have not told my dad anything just yet.i cant afford to get an apartment of my own that's why m dad built this for me. yes he is playing mental games with me and it is working i am trying not to let it get to me but it is.i have a lot of fear of him. I am trying my best to bide my time but it is very very hard. I am ready to throw in the towel and say frig it........ thanks for the suggestions though i am trying. the depression is setting in and i am getting really down and out about all this.

Hi kitty
I can understand the depression your in a bad situation for now, but just try and think of when your apartment is done you will be safe and try and avoid him as much as possible now. Don't let him spoil your future your better than him. If all he can do is intimate you then he is a low life, you already know that. Stay strong and keep posting whatever you feel. Writing what you feel is a realise and just knowing someone can hear you can help the depression, think positive and of your future apartment.
Take good care

im trying to stay strong but it is mighty hard when I am really depressed. I am trying to hang in there belive me what else can I do no matter what I do I get nowhere anyway so whats the use.

It sounds like your dad loves and cares for you very much, do think about telling him, just be truthful and voice all your concerns, think this one over, you have to do what is best for you, but it's you choice, I do wish you well.

HELLO KITTY, CAN YOU GET A CAMERA TO HIDE AND FILM HIM, SO YOU CAN SHOW YOUR DAD THAT HE GOES IN YOUR ROOM, ALSO HAVE YOU THREATEND TO TELL SOMEONE, IT MIGHT STOP HIM, SO SORRY YOU ARE FEELING DEPRESSED, HOPE YOU FEEL BETTER, AND GET STRONGER, MORE ASSERTIVE AND TELL HIM THAT YOU WON'T PUT UP WITH HIS BULLYING, ALSO I AGREE YOU SHOULD TELL YOUR DAD, HE SOUNDS A CARING DAD, AND GET YOUR BROTHER THROWN OUT, ITS WHA THE DESERVE.. LOVE L**

Get a calander, mark off the days one at a time till the second story is done.
Get a journal and write out things that you can do to be away from the house until it is done. Maybe just going to a movie, having a cuppa coffee with a friend.
Go shopping. You don't need to purchase anything, maybe try on something really expensive that you really can never ever afford - pretend that you can afford it and have some fun.
take the pets for a walk.

Just a few ideas. If you write them out, you don't have to remember them and new ones can be written so they are not forgotten.
Choose one each day and be sure to actually do it.
The time may pass faster.