A Child Abuse Survivors Group Community Group

We survived child abuse, but the pain still remains and so do the other effects which can last a lifetime. We are often unable to find adequate help, and we are seeking answers that can help us understand what happened so that we can go on to lead normal lives. (Please note that this is a group for child abuse survivors only. If you are a professional in the mental health...

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Beaumont 04/11/2013

What are some goals we need to have to help us get better?

Some of us may have had treatment goals or therapy goals that we have had or have achieved. Can you name any?

deleted_user 04/11/2013

Probably one of the top ones and one that I still struggle with is loving ourselves. I feel that many of us have grown up in some much abuse that when it was finally over, we in a twisted and distorted way try to find ways to keep that punishment going (perhaps on a subconscious level), since it is all we have ever know. By learning to love ourselves, we start to deprogram all those lies we were told that we came to believe. Stuff like I was useless, worthless, etc. It's a truly hard step, yet an essential one if we are ever to move forward. My best to all, Blaine

enoughalreadynow 04/11/2013

I think a helpful goal is to think our own thoughts on our lives, not what our abusers said we are or are not.

I find this the pdf that I downloaded from this site to be helpful in starting to get to know me on my terms. Take it or leave it: http://www.innerbonding.com/show-page/127/download-the-inner-bonding-free-course.html

deleted_user 04/12/2013

I can't even imagine being able to love myself. It really adds to my social anxiety. I look at myself so negatively that i dont want people to look at me the way i do so i tend to avoid people. Its very unhealthy and ive gotten better by being more social but ive made no progress on appreciating and loving who i am.

deleted_user 04/13/2013

self love is hardest self esteem fluctuates with what others say do dont do I hate it

Krissytin 04/14/2013

I had to cut ties with my Father. Even though I am living on the other side of the country, I had to stop talking to him. He was still blaming me for things in the past and my mother. Just couldnt take it anymore. Has been almost a year and I feel good not having to deal with ridicule from someone.

enoughalreadynow 04/14/2013

Mazel Tov!!, Krissytin.

gizzy2010 04/17/2013

I myself, just like walkingbuffaloman, have found all my years past that I would not LET mySELF love me! I also believe (it may be on a sub-conscious level) because it is all we have ever known. I have in twisted and distorted ways kept my abuse going all on my own. I Kept the ball "rolling" so to speak, mental and physical.

I also believe that this will be a full-time (job) for me. In the here and now, I have just begun to LEARN how to LOVE myself. I hate what we have to deal with every day. It is essential to be able to move on and forward in a positive way! ...I wish all for a chance of LOVE on our paths of self-DISCOVERY. (healing).

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