A Capable Disabled Group Community Group

We would be delighted to have you join our group. A Capable Disabled Group is a mutual support group for persons who are disabled, handicapped, differently abled, or have other conditions, along with our friends and caregivers. We discuss what matters to us, learn from each other, and strive to improve our lives.

52 Members
352 Posts
0 Online
Personal Challenges
/ A Capable Disabled Group Support Group

A DEAF Capable Person!

KittyKai
KittyKai

I am totally deaf, have good speech and am AN EXCELLENT LIPREADER.  But my neighbors avoid me.   I keep telling myself that I am probably fortunate, but it does get lonely at times.  


~~Sigh~~


Oh well!



KK

Insatiate
Insatiate
Hi. I forgot I joined this group. I was a professional but I have certain disabilities that thwart my ability to maintain a typical job. I've trained in 3 different fields and each time, a new disability robbed me of the opportunity to share my gifts.

I want to believe I can find a way, but I get very discouraged. It has become very difficult to not doubt myself, to not start wondering if I am just lazy and irresponsible as so many think. I get tired of constantly having to remind myself I really want to accomplish ABC, I love doing ABC, my will power is insufficient to do ABC, I am worthwhile even if others struggle to see it.

Even professionals and people who care about me in general are blind to what I struggle with When they do understand though, they think I should just focus on taking care of my health and being a mom. It is not enough for me

When I tell people whatd I can give... which is a lot and ask for something small to make it happen, I am typically met with outright unwillingness or empty promises. For example, I volunteer to do something but I can't drive at night so I ask for a ride. Nothing. I offer to create some baskets for an auction but I explain my problems with working memory and ask for a phone call 2 Mondays in a row. Sure, I'm told. Nothing.

More later. Not self-pitying; just frustrated.
KittyKai
KittyKai
Aww, I know exactly how you feel. The same with my neighbors, I am friendly, educated, nice looking, dress nicely and keep a very nicely appointed home.. But no one wants to be my friend here.

I have no idea what your disability is, but have you tried joining a group with the same limitations you have? "Strength in numbers"! You may get some very good input!

Lots of people cannot go out after dark, I personally have zero balance after dark so just need to stay home! Its nothing to be ashamed of. The more people you meet here, the more feedback you will receive. I was a Student Life Counselor before I retired, feel free to send me a personal message. I don't have all the answers of course, but two heads are better than one!

Hugs
KK