would you want to know?

if we were having sex, and something you did caused a panic attack, and a flashback, and all i could think of was being raped again, and it was because of how you touched me, just the smallest thing that you did...
would you want to know that?
b/c i just can't bring myself to tell my husband that he just made me relive my rape.  all he did was try to make love to me.  how do you tell the person you love the most that they reminded you of the person you hate?  how do you come back from that?  he'll be afraid to touch me.  how can you be with a person you're terrified of touching, terrified of hurting?