what do i do?

my stepson is 15. my daughter is 8. my sons mother hasnt been in the picture since he was 3 and has only had his father. his father and i just got married this past july but i have been with him and in my sons life for 5 years now. i am the only mom he has ever really known. the only one that has been with his father that has truly treated him and viewed him like he was my son and i his mom. this past wk my daughter came home from school and took me outside and told me her brother has been inappropriatly touching her. i of course got all the details and my husband and i found out that he has been dry humping my daughter and at one point pulled her pants and panties down. they also discovered that my son himself has been a victim himself from his cousin to my knowledge this ended when he was 12. cps is involved, the sherriffs department is involved, and neither believe to my knowledge that there was any sort of penetration. regardless what he did was WRONG! i as a mother have to protect my daughter first and foremost and i know this. my son got arrested on friday and went to a juvenile detention center until this coming tuesday when he has court. beings im my daughters mom im trying to do everything right for her but i also feel like i need to be there to support my son as well. is that wrong? im so lost on whats ok to feel whats not ok to feel, if im even allowed to feel certain ways. i know i need help and guidance through this situation. i know im breaking inside for my daughter and what shes had to experience more than anything. im breaking for what my son has had to go through with the similar stuff, but im angry im at a loss im devistated that my son someone i never thought would hurt his sister did something like this. what do i do? how do we get through this as a family? is that even possible? im terrified this situation between our children is going to ruin our marriage. i feel so horrible for my husband as well bc i know he is in a situation that has to be so hard wanting to protect his child and knowing what he did was wrong, i need help and advice!

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BlueSky
BlueSky

It sounds like you love them both and are trying to do what's right for each of them. Don't run from your feelings, you'll just make yourself sick. I pray you and hubby can be there for each other and support one another during this awful time of high stress. Do you have a counselor, pastor, or someone you confide in? (((hugs)))
whatdoido
whatdoido

Thank you! My daughter and I do have a counselor that we’ve been seeing for a couple of weeks now which seems to be helping