Had marriage counselling last night, therapist ha us take a test. A 'how well do you know your mate', like the ones in found in most womens mags, but a professional one. 25 questions about do you know your partners best friends? what stress them out? is your sex life satisfying? romance? passion and heat? etc. 15 or more yes answers and you have a stable marriage, 8-14 yes answers and you have a stable marriage, but need to work on some things, 7 or less your marriage is in serious trouble. I scored a 5, she scored a 6. The only questions we could answer honestly were the ones about what stresses your partner out.I found out that I don't really have a life goal to speak of, I never really thought about one, I've always been a 'go with flow' person. The questions that we agreed on were; 'is your sex life satisfying? romance? passion and heat?'. So the therapist gave us homework to do, when the kids are in bed, "spend 30 minutes a night finding out about each other". after I put the kids in bed, she was already in bed, I thought "great she won't even talk to me about the homework", but 10 minutes later we did talk for 10 minutes. she said that she didn't know if she wanted the 'passion and heat'. Oh yeah, when the therapist asked us about our sex life I said that its been months since we've had sex. The therapist said to me "that must be hard for you", then tried to explain to my wife that thats too long and a man needs sex. Sex to men is how we 'make-up' after an arguement, to which my wife laughed and said that sex is not important to her and doesn't care if she ever has sex again. Now I REALLY feel like "just the sperm donor" , it could have been any male.