The first day.

my child was just sentenced to 5 years in prision with a review ini 140 days.  I fight depression already and this makes it worse.   Everyone was telling my son or so he told me.. that he was doing fine, he should only get probation. (his Public defender attorney, his social worker, his probation mentor)  His wife begged the judge to let him go so they could start to heal the family.  (according to the newspaper).  The night before his court day the attorney called him to let him know everyone was pushing for prision time.  His attorney did not know or have any feeling on the outcome.  my son told me his attorney was confused at the hole mess and didn't understand why the procescution was being so wishy-washy.  Needless to say my son was depressed big time.  When I got that news I just cried. the next day, I just felt numb, when I got the news. I feel so helpless.  I feel responsible, I feel I have failed as a father, I worry about my son's wife and children.  I have been out of work for almost 2 years now, so that is not helping.  I also feel that if I could have hired a lawyer this might not have been.  again blaming myself because of no job and no money.  I have reviewed some of the posts here and it looks like my feelings are normal.  I just want to know How I can help my son.  I have sent him a letter already expressing my love and support for him.  thanks for listening. 

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slc123
slc123

You are on the right track by writing your son...keep the letters coming. Visit if you can, take his phone calls...if his wife and kids can, they should too. I am sorry for your pain and you have done nothing wrong. Real lawyer or public defender, I have seen on here, good ones and bad. Don\'t beat yourself up. You will find lots of support here. Take care, sharon