thank goodness for friends!

after a horrible night of fighting last night, we were pretty civil this morning. I bought the book "His Needs Her Needs" and am finding it very interesting so far.  the best part of today was having lunch with one girlfriend, and speaking on the phone with another.  it feels so good to be validated for my feelings and thoughts; if only R would/could do the same for me, then i would feel more hopeful in possible saving this marriage.