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Sociopath:  Someone whose social behavior is extremely abnormal. Sociopaths are interested only in their personal needs and desires, without concern for the effects of their behavior on others. http://www.mcafee.cc/Bin/sb.html This is what I am currently coming to terms with.....that he fits the definition to the letter.  Haven't written a journal entry in over 4 months, and once again, a lot has happenned in those 4 months.  But the same pattern, the same events are occurring once again......and this time I have HAD ENOUGH!!!!!   I am in love with a man that possesses a sociopathic personality.  He is the epitome of charm and has loads of wit and humor.    But these are just an end to his means.  He has no real attachment to people, even if he claims he does.    Lies, manipulation, conning, persuasiveness....all of these attributes apply.  How have I been so blindsided to all of this?  How did I let myself fall victim to this? "Even lovers get taken for a ride by psychopaths. For a psychopath, a romantic relationship is just another opportunity to find a trusting partner who will buy into the lies. It's primarily why a psychopath rarely stays in a relationship for the long term, and often is involved with three or four partners at once, says Willson. To a psychopath, everything about a relationship is a game. Willson refers to the movie 'Sliding Doors' to illustrate her point. In the film, the main character comes home early after just having been fired from her job. Only moments ago, her boyfriend has let another woman out the front door. But in a matter of minutes he is the attentive and concerned boyfriend, taking her out to dinner and devoting the entire night to comforting her. All the while he's planning to leave the next day on a trip with the other woman. The boyfriend displays typical psychopathic characteristics because he falsely displays deep emotion toward the relationship, says Willson. In reality, he's less concerned with his girlfriend's depression than with making sure she's clueless about the other woman's existence. In the romance department, psychopaths have an ability to gain your affection quickly, disarming you with words, intriguing you with grandiose plans. If they cheat you'll forgive them, and one day when they've gone too far, they'll leave you with a broken heart (and an empty wallet). By then they'll have a new player for their game. The problem with their game is that we don't often play by their rules. Where we might occasionally tell a white lie, a psychopath's lying is compulsive. Most of us experience some degree of guilt about lying, preventing us from exhibiting such behavior on a regular basis. "Psychopaths don't discriminate who it is they lie to or cheat," says Seto. "There's no distinction between friend, family and sucker." "   In order to fight a war, you have to know what you are dealing with.  Now that I do, I have to figure out what type of ammunition is appropriate to use and what tactics will be most effective.  This enemy cannot be dealt with like the common enemy, because there is nothing "common" about him.  Just like a terrorist, you cannot fight with conventional methods.  They will always overcome them and defeat you in battle.