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Was an okay day earlier today.  Piddled around the house some then headed to Pell City to pick up my son's cell phone.  I stopped by the Verizon authorized dealer store in Pell City and talked to the girl there about trying to see if we could get Chris's cell phone unlocked.  The girl was so nice and understanding and she said to bring the phone in and she would try to see if she could get it unlocked without loosing his phonebook and text messages - I couldn't ask for more.  I didn't have time to run pick it up from his father's house and get it back to her by 4pm so Jack is going to take it Monday and see what happens.  I hope she can, I really need to see what is in his text's on that day.
Spent a little time with Jack while I was out there, talked about a few things and we were talking about Chris and his death and how at least it was comforting to know that he didn't suffer.  Jack asked me if he told me about the mortician that worked on Chris cause like me he can't remember things from time to time and I told him no.  He said well I must not have told you what he said and I thought I did.  The mortician happened to be the son-in-law of a friend which to me kind of made it nice that in a round about way it was someone of someone we knew that took care of our son.  But then he told me that the mortician said that what killed Chris was a broken neck - boy what a blow all over again that was for me.  We knew he died of blunt force trauma to the head but didn't know it was from his neck. the mortician said that where he broke his neck was instant death - he died on impact.  I felt as if I had gotten that horrible phone call all over again.  I don't blame Jack - he honestly thought he had told me - it just kind of shocked me and he apologized over and over for forgetting to tell me and said that maybe he shouldn't have but i told him no I had wanted to know everything I could.  We both agreed that at least he did not suffer - he never even knew what happened and that he is not laid up in some hospital in a comma with no hope.  It doesn't change the fact that my son is gone and I have been trying to deal with it for almost 3 months now but for some reason it has made me feel so much worse and sadder.  Of course I cried all the way home.  But I am thankful he didn't suffer.
Just needed to share.
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deleted_user
deleted_user

i don\'t know what to say ..... just know i love you and sending you some big {{{hugs}}}
misshim
misshim

Oh Sandi. I\'m happy you will finally be able to get somewhere with the phone thing. The other part of your journal I\'m like Charlayne, I don\'t know what to say other than yes, your baby did not suffer. About 21 years ago, I had a friend fall asleep on the way home from being out partying all night. Her name was Tina and she wrecked practically not even a mile from her own driveway. Witnesses said she was only going about 35-40 miles per hour, but because she fell asleep, the way she hit , she broke her neck when her car went in the ditch. So it was instant for her, too. The witnesses tried to help her, but she was already gone.
I know it must have been easier for her loved ones to know she did not suffer not one bit. This happened in Pell City and she was in her early 20\'s.
Sorry for the rambling. Send me a message or call me Monday if you need to after you find out about the phone. You will be in my thoughts. Hang in there my friend. Love ya, Kelly
JennsMom66
JennsMom66

We all know that feeling of not knowing what you said and what you didn\'t and rambling on and on... I am sure that jack thought the information would be of comfort, we don\'t want our children to suffer. Hope your can get into the phone and that you are able to find what you are looking for.
Peace to you this day
Marylou
KellyLee105
KellyLee105

Thanks for sharing! It does feel better to know, he didn\'t suffer..It\'s us who suffers, it is soooo hard..We can get through it together... Hugs, Kelly
biowoman
biowoman

I think that everything about our child\'s death upsets us...you had all the details (that you knew) up until yesterday....three months later. So, finding out more details stirs the pot again...it makes you think about all of that new info. I know, for us, everytime something new about his estate, or the legal side came up...it stirred the pot. I hope that today will be a bit more gentle for you friend. Love and hugs...Karen
Robin4
Robin4

Sometimes we need to know all the facts however painful to form some type of closure in our minds. We never have closure when we lose a child but all the questions surrounding their death hopefully can be put to rest. I think we have to take comfort where we can and your son didn\'t suffer and that\'s important. Hope you can get the phone unlocked and find some information that may continue to aid in your healing. Love to you. Robin
deleted_user
deleted_user

I feel what your feeling right now. When Nathan was shot, the bullet hit something important in his neck and he died instantly also. I cried and cried, because In a way I\'m glad he felt no pain and didn\'t suffer, but in another way, he didn\'t have a chance to say goodbye to anyone. Very sad. I\'m with you in my heart today. Love and many hugs, Danette