Lots of changes
I have now moved into my own apt and have been locked out of her email account. It's a good thing to be out of the situation and not having the ability to obsess over her and him. I can spend this weekend unpacking and setting up my new life. We will get back together in a few weeks and go over the Marital Separation Analysis. A time out will be good and hopefully cooler heads will prevail. I know I have been very angry about the affair and have been behaving recklessly. Hopefully I did not hurt my chances for a fair settlement.