Caring for Mom at Home: Remember Emotional Needs

You may recall my sister Cindy, but when you do not, allow me to give you a simple overview: My sister owned a very successful stuff-handling business for many years, but she gave it up to care for our parents in their later years. The time was right for my sister as well as our parents definitely wanted her. Along the way, Cindy acquired insight.
I'd like to talk about a small but vital piece of the insight Cindy realized while caring for our mother -- the significance of focusing on the emotional requirements of the maturing parent/patient, and never permitting the significance of "physical care" to become your complete relationship.
When you read Cindy's remarks below, I suggest that you seek help in case you realize that you are consumed with the "physical caring" only and missing the ability to completely benefit from the psychological and relationship needs of your loved one.
She was completely dependent and bound, while caring for my very ailing Mommy in the past years of her life. Using a tracheotomy, she had been sent home due to issues in coming off the ventilator while in the hospital that she continued to live with. She had a feeding tube for nutritional support and of course, she had a urinary catheter. The wide-ranging amount of attention that had to be delivered to Mom every day was overwhelming sometimes. It was important to keep the feeding tube website really clean, catheter website, as well as the tracheotomy site to avoid infection. Along with changing and bathing her constantly, it was a very active 24 hours.
However there was. If you are ensuring you get it right and focused on a your loved one's care, you can sometimes forget about the psychological needs of your loved one. Below are some things I learned:
Be sure their room is bright with plenty of keepsakes near. Try to reminisce concerning the significance of a certain keepsake together and let them tell you stories of its value.
If possible, have their bed near a window to allow them to look out. My mother appreciated the squirrels and birds we fed outside her window. Place pictures of the favorite scenes in their field of vision if no window is available.
Listen to their own history. My mom especially liked me to pay attention to her talk about her service in watching VHS movies about the war with her and WWII as a Morse code operator.
Take time for beauty! I learned to spend extra hours brushing my mum's hair, applying the lotions she loved, and filing her nails.
Stop and spend time together. Sometimes my mother merely wanted me to sit with her and hold her hand. She loved me reading to her until she fell asleep.
Toward the end of Mother's time she said to me, "Please hug me, no one has hugged me lately." It broke my heart to think I'd missed this very particular part of her attention. With all the work that was day-to-day that was continuing to make sure her physical care was finished, I had forgotten among the main elements of care giving - adoring and spending mother -daughter time with my Mother.
Should you find yourself in a situation such as this, where you are administering much physical care that there doesn't appear to be hours or energy please seek help. Being a caregiver could be tough. There are health professional services which could allow you that time you along with your loved one truly want so you could be a daughter again. - In-Home Care -