Caring for Mom at Home: Remember Emotional Needs

You may recall my sister Cindy, but if you don't, let me to give you a brief summary: My sister owned a very successful material-handling business for many years, but she gave it up to care for our parents in their later years. The timing was appropriate for my sister and our parents definitely needed her. Along the way, Cindy gained much insight into caring for loved ones.
I'd like to share a small but vital piece of the penetration Cindy comprehended while caring for our mother -- the importance of focusing on the emotional requirements of the aging parent/patient, and not enabling the need for "physical attention" to become your entire relationship.
After you read Cindy's remarks below, I suggest that you just seek assistance should you find yourself consumed with the "physical caring" only and missing the opportunity to completely enjoy the mental and relationship needs of the one you love.
While caring for my very ailing Mum in the past years of her life, she was absolutely dependent and bound. Due to problems in coming off the ventilator while in the hospital, she had been sent home using a tracheotomy that she continued to live with. She had a feeding tube for nutritional support not to mention, she had a urinary catheter. The wide-ranging amount of attention that had to be delivered to Mom every day was overwhelming at times. It was important to help keep catheter site the tracheotomy website, and also the feeding tube website really clean to avoid illness. Along with bathing and altering her continuously, it was quite a busy 24 hours.
However there was something I tended to forget. If you are ensuring you get it right and focused on a your loved one's care, you can sometimes forget about your loved one's psychological demands. Here are a few things I learned:
Be sure their room is light with a lot of keepsakes around. Try and reminisce regarding the importance of a particular keepsake with them and allow them to tell you stories of its own significance.
If possible, have their bed near a window for them to look out. My mother appreciated the squirrels and birds we fed outside her window. Place pictures in their preferred scenes in their field of vision, if no window is available.
Tune in for their history. My mother particularly liked me to listen to her talk about her service in WWII as a Morse code operator and seeing VHS movies about the war with her.
Take time for beauty! I learned to spend additional hours brushing my mother's hair, applying the lotions she adored, and filing her nails.
Stop and spend together time. Occasionally my mommy just wanted me to sit with her and hold her hand. She loved me reading to her until she fell asleep.
Toward the conclusion of Mom's time she said to me, "Please hug me, no one has hugged me recently." It broke my heart to believe I'd missed this very special element of her care. With all the work that was day-to-day that was on-going to make sure her physical care was completed, I'd forgotten one of the most crucial facets of care giving - adoring and spending mother -daughter time with my Mother.
Should you get in a scenario for example this, where you're administering much physical care that there does not seem to be hours or energy left to stop and spend time with your loved one, please seek help. Being a caregiver may be demanding. There are health professional services that will allow you that time you as well as your loved one actually desire so you could be a daughter. - Home Care -