I stayed in a relationshit with a man who was manipulative and domineering for 16 years. He was very good at keeping me isolated from my family and friends--I actually lived in his home country with him for most of my time with him. He trampled my will and I knew it was all wrong from the beginning...yet I could not get out. Year after year, I lived a cruddy life and even had 3 kids with him. Things worked in a cycle and he made it seem that if I just gave up another little piece of myself...just around the corner there were good times ahead. Well the good time never came: not emotionally, professionally or financially. he was a detriment to me in all ways. On this site, I here of people missing their ex and struggling with NO Contact but I do not miss him at all. I have a restraining order and have had about 4 months of no contact and love it. The problem is that he wants me back and will do anything to get back to me--the weird thing is he spent so much time bullying me, he doesn't even know me...I guess he misses that shell of a woman who did his bidding and paid his bills. He is a boundary trampler and he is all over my kids--especially my 14 year old boy. I loved too much in that I gave too much thinking that I HAD too stay for my kids and that maybe it really would get better...but he is just a loser. He has followed me back to the states and it is just hard to begin again.
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