Although I'm in recovery from being with men who are bad for me and I'm staying away from men for a while, I know that I do have a problem with lack of excitement and attraction to men who I know are good for me. I know this from past experience and it was almost equally painful emotionally, trying to get that feeling that never happened. I would actually dread going to bed with them. It felt more like a "duty" so that I could keep with a good guy. But, I know now that you can't for it. It's either there or it's not. I know it's my screwed up head. Is there anyone out there that has the same problem, and/or have any tips, besides just keeping away from men completely?
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