So I know I have needed to change for a while now. I am nineteen years old, and ever since my first relationship I have been a women who loves too much. Until I read this book I would blame the problems on the men I was in a relationship with. But deep down I knew it was me, I had to be doing something wrong. I came across this book in hopes to improve my current relationship of nine months, and it just caught my eye. Me and my boyfriend recently moved cross country together. Ever since we moved in together he had slowly started to push me away to the point now where I feel like we are just friends who live together. He has always been loving and never would hurt me. After I read the book, I realized I was definately one of these women. It was definately confirmed when my boyfriend had told me that was the problem in our relationship. I have no life outside of him, he is my only life and he feels so suffocated. It was hard for me to come to terms with because I don't know how to be in a relationship any other way. But after more of my nagging of trying to find out what was wrong with us. I told him I would give him a week to decide if he was willing to let me work on it, or if he wanted to break up then we can. We are both taking this week to do some soul searching on what we really want to do. I am willing to stay together, but only if I am able to find my own life and do things without him and without being so focused on him. I just do not know where to start. I have just moved. I know no one really. That is where I am stuck.
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