I'm new here... I'm reading the book Women Who Love Too Much by Robin Norwood, I was watching a t.v. show where they talked about it, and I researched it on Google, and they were talking about me! Which I know many of you will agree. To make a very LONG story short, I was addicted to my ex. Everything is so fresh, it's so strange to call him that. Anyway, we have 2 kids together, he's depressed, and he won't see doctors, he's emotionally abusive to me, and after 2 years, I have finally buckled down and said "NO MORE." I can feel myself crumbling and feeling so disgusted with him that I need to make a change. And not for myself, but for my kids. I talked with my therapist today and she said that she understands why I'm doing it now, rather than earlier. Realizing and following through with separating with him. She said that when a woman is asked to leave when she isn't ready it's easy to float right back in, because you weren't ready to leave... and secondly the reason why you waited to change things later than sooner was because you had to go through the hurt and pain (my process) in order to be ready when I was ready in order for it to mean anything. Does that make sense? Right now I've found alternate babysitting so he isn't watching them, because of how fragile I am for starters it'd be easy to try to coax him into talking like I usually would have done, and secondly he "jokes" or doesn't joke about suicide, or leaving town. I can no longer depend on him. Not that I ever really could.
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