Joe and I met 3 years ago. I had just seperated from my Narissistic husband when I met "JOE". Joe seemed to be "just what I needed". He was gentle,kind and listened to me and seemed to understand me like no one else did. He greeted me at the door with roses and showered me with affection. I filed for divorce. Joe and I began seeing each other. And as fate would have it, the first night we were intimate, BAM!! I soon found out I was expecting TWINS!!! And like overnight, the man I felt was 'just what I needed" became withdrawn and cold. His calls and texts were slim to none. I tried with everyting I had to make myself a place in his life, but failed miserably. He just wanted to be "friends with benefits". He didnt want a relationship. To make things even worse, I was trudging down the same path I just went through with my ex-husband. (We made a daughter together shortly after we started dating.)So here I was reliving the past, but with someone new!! He asked us to move in with him when the twins were a fews old. But on the grounds that we were still "friends with benefits" and nothing else. And because I was so in love with him and wanted us to be a family, I agreed. I was lying to myself. We were NEVER a family and I've come to accept we never will be.Alot has happened since we came to stay with him. ALOT of hurt and heartache on my part to say the least. He's cheated, lied, manipulated, etc. But I LET HIM. Now he says he sees us as boyfriend/girlfriend but he "will never get married". He and I agreed I would quit my job 2 months ago because child care was so expensive. (I was still living a lie that we were family.)Now, I feel trapped in a one-sided relationship with 3 kids and no family support, living with my babys' daddy; very unhappy, feel unloved, unappreciated, drained, overwhelmed and don't know what to do about it.
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