Hi, new here, I apologize if I am repeating a post. I am a 46 year old young lady, I am recently married, after 6 years of living with my husband. We have a wonderful story, we met online, not on a dating site, just by chance, we fell in love through text, messages, and phone calls, there were some things we were both hiding, of course, but not big enough to even impact our relationship. They were HUGE things!! Anyway, We flew to a place and met, already knew we were in love. Had a great time, and a few months later I flew to his home, we had a week together. He was great. Then we decided I would move down, I saved money for months, because I knew beginning my home daycare would be a long hard road in a new place. So, I have had too many confrontations to even put on here, all the way to locking me out of the house, and threatening to throw all my things out...The beginning....during....being talked to like a child, pointing out things that are not to his standards...Mind you, I have an in home daycare, my home is pretty clean!!! It;s like this, there is a sticky spot on the counter, and it is suddenly a major problem! Just constant stuff you would probably confront maybe children with...possibly...I don't know I just clean things up, I don't need to point out things to people, unless of course you are teaching your children how to clean properly, I take care of 10 kids for 12 hours a day, and in that time, I try to clean house, I do laundry, and have dinner on the table by 6:30. I mean a REAL dinner,,,cooking is my other passion..but still..something is out of place, or a dish wasn't cleaned good....I have been living with this for 7 years. It didn't start getting to me until recently, and my response is, why do you need recognition for everything you do, and why do you need to point out things as if you are perfect...I go behind him all the time and clean up, I don't need to let him know it, it's just what people who love each other do! So, now it's down to when we take a little short drive, my map seems to be off on my phone, I am being yelled at, and he aggressively stops the car, and sais hand me the damn phone. This is a day of leisure... he shares many things with me, I do photography, and we both take some photo's, but I just don't know what kind of crazy bat crap I am living in. I have become very private about my feelings now, because he makes a joke out of everything...you can't even finish a sentence before he has something stupid to say, and then I just walk away..Yes I has addressed it, boo...he sais he is sorry a thousand times now, I use the term boo, because yesterday he comes in and announces his son who lives almost 3 hours away is moving around the corner to a different apt. the kid already had a plan, and good old Dad sais no I will take a day off and help you. Nice right? This man complains about not missing work constantly!!! The kid is in college, he has room mates, and friends...Dad wasn't there there first, second, or third time....Now I get OMG, I cant take a day off, yet you know those fishing days, visits up north, heck I don't care, now it is just weird,, I asked my husband are you sure HE asked you for help, or just assumed he wanted it. Then it all went South!!! I was a bitch, I said such horrible things about HIS SON...I said honey he is moving around the corner,,,he has 2 room mates, and a ton of friends, are you sure you are not inviting yourself?? So now I HAVE CROSSED THE LINE!! I asked him today, what did I say so HORRIBLE about your son, he said you said he has a bunch of friends, and he can probably move himself...This is the horrible thing I said about his kid. So, now, he confronts me more then 24 hours later, and after screaming all these things at me, I say you know what you are acting like a lunatic, being an asshole, and you are making things up, he sais yea you're a crazy bitch like your mom,,,He has never met my mother, she is a homeless person in CO, and it has been that way since I was 14 years old, and then it was why don't you get a job outside of the house...I have lived with chronic pain for 20 years, but I still chose to give what I could, and then it was about how I failed in my relationships with my two sons, one of which I raised, and am having vacation with in July, and the other unfortunately fell victim to his dad which is 16 years older then I am, so he had knowledge, and he won...All of these things I wanted to share with my husband...I helped him through so much, he was very poor, and lost his license, way before me, I helped him get back on the right track, always there to support, his boys love me, and now this..I just cant forgive when someone has to reach into the bag of secretes to hurt you.July 17th will be one year, I have been here all day, and he thinks I have something to apologize for....I might add, he describes his ex wives as the same type of people!! I cannot leave, my work is here, I have left before, I will not do it again...any advice,,,and I am sorry I wrote a book:( Desperate in Florida...and I apologize for any errors,,,
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