My husband is an alcoholic...we've been through four rehabs....and he has detoxed at home but always starts back on the beer...then the alcohol....and I've discussed with him that I am going to start to AlAnon. Believe it or not...we do have a good marriage...he is not abusive even though there has been problems caused by the drinking (naturally) but I have always managed to cope with them. We have been married for 30 years and the drinking was never a problem until he retired but it has affected his health now tremendously and also is starting to affect me. I have an appt. with a counselor next week. I do not drink and never have...just do not like the taste of it and always much happier living in the "real" world. My husband loves me dearly.......he is having and has had shame, remorse, etc. (same old story) ...He is laid back, quiet natured, never missed a day of work in his 35 year career due to drinking.....but first thing in the morning now with his cup of coffee.........a drink!
The reason I'm asking about AlAnon is because I attended once before in our rural town before we moved to our current town. I was very disappointed in the meeting and gained nothing from it.......it was more like a gossip session (this is not judgemental...it really was) and no real information or support seemed to be given. I dropped out after two visits.
I would really like to be involved with AlAnon and become more educated with all this.......to learn coping skills...to have someone to talk to that understands. I really would appreciate any of your thoughts. It's sorta hard to post in words your feelings....but I'm ready for some life changes.