I am wondering if there are any of you that have grown children of AH? I have a 25 yo son, and a 21 year old daughter. My son is from a previous relationship, but was raised by the AH, and the daughter is "Daddys little girl" in every sense of the word! She used to tell me that her daddy was all that and more, my son knew what was going on, but he didn't really understand how it effected me. Now they do, but they both hope and pray that he will get his head out of his arse and get sober so there won't be a divorce. The thought of divorce scared my kids, my son was scared that Dad wouldn't take him hunting anymore, and the daughter was worried how we would spend the holidays now that she is a mother. I told her that we would cross that proverbial bridge when we get there, and to not go there.