Hello all and thanks for taking the time to read and possibly answer my concern. Have been married to an alcoholic man for the last 18years and we have a 13 years old son.
over the years he has been re-habed in hospital more times than I can remember and I have through it all have supported him . I have always managed to keep it all quite and keep my son safe from his verbal and physical abuse . But as my son is getting older I can't hide this from him and about 6-7 weeks ago after yet another evening of drinking my husband tried to punch me and my son stepped in the middle to protect means said "dad u need to punch me first then mummy".
Since then their relationship has gone down the toilet and every time my husband drinks my son makes a comment about his drinking my husband gets angry and pretends with his fist that he's going to hit my 13year old.
I am completely dependent on my husband. He seems to function completely well at work and holds a very high profile and very well paid job and without his financia I wouldn't be able to live. At present we are living away from our home country and have no monies of my own although we have joint accounts that we both have access to.
In the past we had talked about divorce and I had left him but he ended up having 14bottles of wine over a preiod of 3days and ended up in hospital and I was called and I had to return. He's not taking any responsibility for his actions and never apologises. I have even thought of me going away and leaving him alone with our son ,but I don't want my son to go thro the foster care system.
My main concern is that I don't want my son to be exposed to this kind of behaviour and abuse verbally and physically as I know kids of one alcoholic parents they tend to become or abuse some form of substance and I don't want him to think it's normal for my son to treat females as his father does.
I am at a crossroads do I stay put and then leave my husband when my son has left the family home OR do I act on it now and try and get out before it has more damaging effect on me and my son.
I am desperate and don't know what to do for the best.
Kind regards and god bless u all.