My AH and I are headed to court next week- after he postponed last week- still refuses to give his financials over to his attorney to get on w this divorce. I was flabbergasted when my attorney called me on Friday- to tell me that his attorney had sent her a letter stating I was a negligent mother, not using payments towards kids and that I was harrassing his girlfriend and they were intending on seeking a restraining order. I am an amzing mother- my kids are my whole life.This is a man who walked out on his kids and wife- out of the blue- after I supported him in AA for the past 2 years- so he could run wild w his new woman and drink. He is trying to claim he is back in AA- even though I knew this was BS. Then yesterday morning I get texts startingat 1am until about 9 am in the morning. He was in some violent fight where they severed his EAR! and who was he calling to save him- me! he said he is going crazy, thinks he has hit his bottom and wants to enter rehab. he said he was sorry for the letter and he did it bc he felt angry w me. He said he wasnt going to talk to OW again- who is basically a child herself. He wouldnt give me details about what had happened- just said he wasin the hospital and it happened bc he was really drunk. well- i wake up this morning to find out that he is back to being an ahole. He stated that he will continue seeing the kids. I then did something I know I should not have, but I emailed the OW and told her she needed to back off and let my husband get treatment. she responded by saying- that i am delusional and all i spew is lies. so now- my attorney and i have decided we need to cut off visitation until we find out what is going on w him. I am thinking he may be into drugs now as well. he lies to everyone in his world. but when he needs help he calls me- bc i am the only one who knows how bad he really is. the audacity of him. i know it is going to be hell tomorrow when he finds out i am seeking supervised visitation or no visitation until he seeks treatment. he texted me that he was at an AA mtg. how does his girlfriend not have an idea about his AA meetings or that he is an alcoholic. he treats me so horribly. its like i am garbage to him. all he does is lie, lie, lie. anyways, wish me luck w tomorrow and court next week. i feel terrible having to have the kids see their dad less, but he rarely shows up when he is supposed to anyway, but I cannot hope he is ok when he is w them. I do not know who he is associating with- that would go so far as to sever his ear. it is all scary and i amnot putting my kids at risk. will th ejudge agree w me? God help me- if they let him have unsupervised visitation. i will be a nervous wreck.