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I know I have talked about my problems with my in-laws and at this point things have simmered down.
My husband and I had two sons. They are relatives/family with my in-laws and I have no probelm with that - and the boys know (they are 21 and 18) that when they want to see anyone from my husband's family they can go see them or call, etc. They are online with their cousins alot.
But, to me they aren't family/relatives. I don't feel like I have to or need to stay in contact with, etc. Lately they have made peace - how they say it - with my husband's death and they are just going on with their lives. If that is their choice - I am not going to make them try to see how much he meant to me and that my life is toppsy turvy.
I was just curious how it was for others - as far if in-laws have stayed family, or people making problems, or just people. My husband and I were married for 23 1/2 years and that family bonding just didn't happen.
Again - I am so grateful you all are here - I don't know how I would make it - it will be 10 monhts on Monday.
Bon
My husband and I had two sons. They are relatives/family with my in-laws and I have no probelm with that - and the boys know (they are 21 and 18) that when they want to see anyone from my husband's family they can go see them or call, etc. They are online with their cousins alot.
But, to me they aren't family/relatives. I don't feel like I have to or need to stay in contact with, etc. Lately they have made peace - how they say it - with my husband's death and they are just going on with their lives. If that is their choice - I am not going to make them try to see how much he meant to me and that my life is toppsy turvy.
I was just curious how it was for others - as far if in-laws have stayed family, or people making problems, or just people. My husband and I were married for 23 1/2 years and that family bonding just didn't happen.
Again - I am so grateful you all are here - I don't know how I would make it - it will be 10 monhts on Monday.
Bon
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It is interesting about this journey. We all have found different responses from our families, our spounses families, our friends, and others around us.
I am glad that those of you have found support whether from your spounse's family, friends, or those of us here at DS.
I think as each of us have different responses to our grief, so we all have different circumstances with all of those around us.
But, one thing we all have is our support, encouragment, and help here - we all know about this journey we are on.
Thank you everyone!
Bon