I lost my husband Sept 12, 2007....Today, New Year's eve was one of his favorite days...For years the tradition has been for him to cook all sorts of things and our friends next door would do the same and we would have a pot luck type get together at our house....Well,just before Thanksgiving, i mentioned to my friends that NYE would be an extra hard day for me...they said maybe we can still have the get together....i just said i didn't know how i was going to feel as the time got closer but one thing was for sure, i didn't think i would want to cook for it as that was my husband's thing to do...they said well, maybe we could do something else instead...well, today is the Big day and so far nothing else has been mentioned...not even..."Hey, we know its going to be a hard day for you, is there anything we can do to help you get thru it?" I'm really hurt and disappointed in them as friends...and I had always thought they were our closest friends....I don't know if I should let them know how hurt I am or just forget it and not do anything that would hurt our future friendship...i know if i need them to help me do something, all i have to do is ask...but I do feel like they have really let me down. Any ideals on how i should handle this? Ann
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