April 17 will always be a special day. It is a day to celebrate the joy of the life you were blessed to live together. So, any way you would like to celebrate would be uplifting, I think. Dinner with loved ones, a day at a park if the weather is nice, Friends, family, nature all are comforts and joys. I wish you the very best!

Our 42nd anniversay would have been May 15 and I was wondering the same thing. Our daughter lives locally and I'll probably go out to dinner with her and my grandson and we'll laugh about funny stories. We have so many terrific memories that it will be easy to smile (at least that's what I'm hoping).

Judith, I hope you'll update us when you make a decision.

Deborah

Our wedding anniversary is April 15th and it would have been 39 years. I know how you feel i've been trying to do different things on holidays, birthdays, etc just to get through the day. It's been 7 months and this journey has been filled with so much pain. Today I'm going to have my taxes done and it will be an emotional sad day. Hope you can get thru your anniversary date peacefully. Kathy

I would like to tell you what I did. I had a cook-out and invited people who knew us. As they came in I had a box decorated with pics of us. There was paper sitting next to it and they were asked to write down a funny memory of US , together as a couple and put it in the box. Then after dinner we sat around and read them. It was hysterical, alot of laughter and smiles...Whatever you choose try to make it fun as like you said celebrate that you had a chance to have those years with him. I cherish the fact that I was lucky enough to have my husband rather than dwell on the fact that he is gone
Hugs

Judith,
It is and always will be a very special day - a day worth celebrating - the day that you married the love of your life. Our wedding anniversary was Nov. 28 and we would have been married just 2 years. We married in the TN mountains and decided to take an anniversary trip there every year with the family for the Thanksgiving week as an anniversary celebration. We did the first year - but by the 2nd anniversary, Mark was gone. The kids and I decided to go anyway - we decided that he would have wanted that and, of course, we took him (his box of ashes) with us. We had dinner at the same restaurant that he loved - and we shared some of his ashes with the Blue Ridge Mtns. as he loved the area.
We shed some tears - and we laughed - but it was a beautiful weekend; bittersweet but beautiful.
Wishing you a peaceful day,
Chris

you know nerf- I'm a guy and I tell ya...dates are so hard for me. The coupla anniversaries we've had I did poorly. But I was always honest and said "babe I'm such a knucklehead...when's our anniversary?" She would always say "at least you remember it was around winter time". And so she would tell me without regard, nagging, irritation, or judgement. And usually would be about a day and half or so. So I always end up getting some crappy presents or crappy plans for the anniversary. But you know what I realize now- is that it was'nt the presents, it was'nt the dine and wine, hell it was'nt even because I remembered or lack of that she appreciated- btu the fact that i tried and we actually would just end up in front of the fireplace or our bonfire with her favorite wine(reisling) and just really look and hold each other. We did not even really tslk...we just cuddled and made silly noises. So what if it was cold outside with the bonfire but was well worth it when she nuzzled next to me. I am sure you have had finer moments than those I've had- memories my friend will keep you company during your anniversary and I'm sure he remembers those and you yours. On my anniversary I will remember her face every inch, every hair, every angle, remember her eyes, lips, ears even her elbows. That's what I have planned in front of my bonfire pit or fireplace with her favorite wine.