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The DS Commune

deleted_user
deleted_user
Just a light-hearted post, some musings, spinning off loveandgrace's post about worry.

Being an overgrown flowerchild who visited and stayed at a commune from time to time back in the day, I got to thinking this wasn't a bad idea. Everyone had their own quarters on the same parcel of land and helped each other. They were pretty much self-sufficient. They even home schooled their kids. Now of course, we won't have THIS to worry about now.

So OK, we're all up there in age. Many are self-sufficient and set for life. Many more aren't. Some have only their SS to live on. Now, I don't want to live in the boonies anymore....I like conveniences and I'm not strong enough to plow. In New Orleans, I knew a woman who bought a 40,000 square foot (abandoned) orphanage and turned it into a private home. There were suites for all her out of town family members. friends, guests...big suites. Every amenity. It was gorgeous and we deserve the same. So, here's my list of musts.....add your own. Remember, there are so many of us that cash is not a problem. ;-)

1) Luxury apartment. in a huge repurposed structure (a castle would be nic)
2) Elevators
3) Warm weather
4) Lush courtyards/gardens
5) Heart of the city.....convenient to everything
6) Optional maid service (at your own personal cost)
7) Several guests suites
8) PEOPLE!
9) ...............your turn............muse away
deauxgirl
deauxgirl
The pool would have to have eye candy to clean it. A hot tub for 10 to 20 people, would be nice. We all have some sort of arthritis. It needs to be in FL, LA, AZ, TX or CA. Those are all sort of warm places. Anyone that hits the Powerball on here, can at least get it going. We need a rec room for parties and dances. Separate suites for guests. Not a retirement home, maybe it could be Widows/Widowers Resort/Home. A small community dining room, car service, a large community kitchen, if we need it. The sky's the limit. Let's dream some more.
Paula
deleted_user
deleted_user
Oh yes, eye candy....warm weather can go up on top of the list too.....as long as it's not hurricane prone warm weather. I vote for AZ. No, this would definitely NOT be a nursing home! A ball room would be nice in addition to a rec room. I might even want a small, intimate, candle-lit bar off in one corner of the complex. Heh.
Wmsbaby
Wmsbaby
A cook! So we woldn't have to survive on chips and a coke for dinner forever!
Large acreage with it for us country folks where we get lost in nature if we wish complete with a pond with ducks and plenty of fish.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Scenic walking trails would be nice.
deleted_user
deleted_user
OK, looks like we're going to need two communes. One for the city and one for the country.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I need a place for my "Old Geezer" band to play. And I need some old geezers to play in it :-) OK...who are the guitar, piano, flute, fiddle, etc players here?
deauxgirl
deauxgirl
I used to play accordian, long, long, ago, in a far away place.lol
This is fun, thinking up dreams, wishes, etc. Hope we don't come across too distrubed to people, but what the heck, we deserve it!
I think what we all crave, is companionship. This would be a great way, to have people that "get" us, to hang out with.
Paula
Lininsocal
Lininsocal
Actually this isn't a bad idea, a commune to grieve and renew. A few therapists and a health care facility would work well too. Like a rehab and then a helper to help you transition back to your home so you won't fall prey to the Grief monster...can I be the vocalist in Loran's band???
Any investors?
deleted_user
deleted_user
You can DEFINITELY be the vocalist! But this ain't gonna be no rehab place. Those are called nursing homes.
pathoflife
pathoflife
A caretaker PLEEEEZE!! Mowing the yard (3 acres) makes me crazy, and weed whacking sends me over the edge. I like the final result as I sit and gaze at the beauty of God's nature during the evening sunset, but the maintenance is too much for this old lady.

Oh, and could we include pool tables in the rec room with a working fireplace at one end? I love the coziness of a fire on those chilly evenings. OK, I'm done, ya'll can take it from here. TJ
deleted_user
deleted_user
Great Lin - you can absolutely be the vocalist. OK - we have a guitar player, a vocalist and possibly an accordion player. The band is starting to shape up! :)
pathoflife
pathoflife
Loran,

What era of music do you play? Or, better said, What vintage? :>) TJ
deleted_user
deleted_user
This is so crazy because my brother and I have talked of doing this, not seriously, but talked about how it was a great idea and wondered why people did not do it. I think a castle would be wonderful and it should have lots of grounds so that the dogs could have a park to play in. It should have a swimming pool and a putting green for the golfers. A ballroom for dancing would be nice too so every Saturday night we could hire a band to come. A bowling alley would be sweet too. A creek running through the grounds with huge willow trees. There are fish in the creek for the guys.
tskks
tskks
O.K. Hmmm, well I can't sing or play an instrument but if the Old Geezer Band can play some catchy tunes I can be the resident fool that drinks too much and dances on the tabletops!
michaelbmanning
michaelbmanning
Not taking younger people into your commune...discrimination. My kids would love to annoy each and every one of you.

Maggie
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