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First year mark of that faithful January night. I always said I did not want to mark the day. I just want to forget it ever existed but I know I just cant, I think about it all the time anyway. So I will use this forum to write about what she meant to me. Maybe it will make someone else think of their loved one and just know you are not alone in how you feel.
The days seem longer, time is just time ticking endlessly. The pain of living another day without you diminishes, but the realization that you are gone echoes like the roaring train in our empty home. As I close my eyes and chase your images, it teases me knowing I can never capture them or hold them. I can see your perfect smile and hear you're cheerful laughter, haunting me of wasted times that I took for granted. The reasons you are not here are secondary to the reasons that I need you to be here. It's not enough to say I miss you, it's not enough to say how much I love you or that we will be together someday. Words so full of emotions, which are said and disappear like a cool breath on a rainy, January night. It's just not enough. The hunger to hear you, to see you, to feel you runs deep in my heart like an endless surge of electricity, building and building only to ignite at a simple glimpse of your picture, a verse form your favorite song or a phantom thought that once made me smile. These feeling I hold so deep that the right words can never reach and the promises of love that will never be told. I know as time moves on, everything will change but love remains the same. I will love you forever.
SWEET DREAMS.
The days seem longer, time is just time ticking endlessly. The pain of living another day without you diminishes, but the realization that you are gone echoes like the roaring train in our empty home. As I close my eyes and chase your images, it teases me knowing I can never capture them or hold them. I can see your perfect smile and hear you're cheerful laughter, haunting me of wasted times that I took for granted. The reasons you are not here are secondary to the reasons that I need you to be here. It's not enough to say I miss you, it's not enough to say how much I love you or that we will be together someday. Words so full of emotions, which are said and disappear like a cool breath on a rainy, January night. It's just not enough. The hunger to hear you, to see you, to feel you runs deep in my heart like an endless surge of electricity, building and building only to ignite at a simple glimpse of your picture, a verse form your favorite song or a phantom thought that once made me smile. These feeling I hold so deep that the right words can never reach and the promises of love that will never be told. I know as time moves on, everything will change but love remains the same. I will love you forever.
SWEET DREAMS.
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That is beautiful. I know she knows you love her. I have to believe they know how we feel. Im coming up on my year on the 21st and it is sure bringing everything back.. I wish you well. We will get through this. We got through the hardest day ever, we can do this. Hugs. Sandie
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You said it all, my husband only died 9 weeks ago reading this made me cry, it says exactly how i feel. Thank you xxx
mooreandmore
That is beautiful, thank you for sharing it.
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You captured my feelings exactly. Tomorrow is 1 year for me. Sally
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That says what I've tried to find the words to say. I lost my husband in May of '08, I cann't say last year because it seems like yesterday.My husband died 11 days after learning he had brain cancer, there was so much more I needed to tell him but no time. I have to believe that the loves who died can see, hear and feel the love we still have for them and if they could, would hold us again also. I always said that being loved by my husband was like walking in a warm breeze, knowing he was here gave me safety and comfort. It is the hardest thing there is and I thank-you for letting me know others feel the same. I wish you peace and hope that you, me and all the others in this group find some comfort from each other.
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